Why Can I Not Stop Thinking About My Ex?
Ask FreeloveMD | August 24, 2009
3 Comments
I do not understand why I can not stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend even though I am married! A few years ago I meet this guy who I fell madly in love with. We dated off and on for two years but things just didn’t work out. Not a day went by that I did not think of him after the breakup. A year after we broke up I meet another fantastic guy who I also fell in love with! We ended up having a baby and getting married. We’ve almost been married a year now. The problem is just last month my ex started hanging around my cousin (we are all mutual friends), now I can’t get him out of my head! I love my husband to death, so I don’t understand why I can’t stop thinking about my ex!
You seem to easily become consumed with love. Perhaps that’s just your nature. Tell yourself that you were once in love with this guy, but now you love your husband. You probably could love someone else as well. We all have this capacity in the right circumstances, but for some it’s easier. So if you frame the first guy as simply someone you once loved and not someone who’s in your life now then you should be able to just let him go and focus on your relationship with your husband.
Jeff says:
September 18, 2009 at 10:37 pm
He must have been ok guy but thats the problem with people today they dont see marriage as a life long commitment they exp problem like lust and give up all but u should worry about being a good wife and mother may god bless us all
Molly says:
October 1, 2009 at 4:39 am
I just want to know why i cant stop thinking about my ex boyfriend. its like i dont have to see him for years but once i see him he hunts me and like i dont know if its cause i might still love him or whatever. I hang out with his sister and i seen him like two weekends ago nd hes be on my mind every since and when i was there he couldnt stop coming around me but we wouldnt say anything to each other but its like we were on each other mind and we are with other people. If we open our mouth to each other either we have an attitude or we flirt. But the person i am with I love him also but like we argue all the time and i just think of my ex… i just wanna kno what this means????
marcia says:
October 14, 2009 at 8:55 pm
yeah, i know what u mean, i feel ur pain. I am also married, have been married for 5 years and i still think about my ex all the time.
I also love my husband very much, but i feel like my relationship with him isn´t complete. I feel like the love i felt for him has vanished little by little. And i hate the fact that i still think about my ex. SOmetimes i think i really need to see a psycologist in order to get help, i will do that because i have tried on my own and nothing. I think it´s an obsession, and nothing else.
sharing ur pain.