When do you know it is time to move a relationship forward? My wife of 10 years and I separated about 9 months ago. About 4-5 months ago my best friend and HIS wife really started hitting rock bottom with their equally as long marriage that had been in trouble for some time. He just moved out of their home about 2 weeks ago and he and I are still good friends. His wife and I have been friends for a very long time. About 4 months ago that she and I began hanging out together sort of as support for each other and simply because we have a good time together as friends. She and I have NOT done anything beyond the boundaries of a friendship. We HAVE talked about the “issues” that she had and I had sexually with our respective spouses, and have even talked openly about the things we enjoy sexually. Recently she and I have been talking about how much we have in common and I am finding that my once underlying sexual attraction to her has become something quite different. I am falling in love with her. I want to hold her in my arms, kiss her and tell her how I am feeling, but since she and I are such good friends, I am afraid of ruining even having a friendship with her. My feeling for her are so strong that if a friendship was all I could have, than that is just fine. Do you think she may be going through similar struggling feelings about me? I want very much to have more than a friendship with her and want to find a way to ask her. Also I don’t want to ruin our friendship if she is NOT feeling similarly about me. WHAT DO I DO??? I am a nervous wreck. It has been 17 years since I have had butterflies like this.