Is our relationship worth continuing or should we both go our separate ways? I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year. When we got together her was separating from his wife. He had cheated on his wife several times and he told me about all of this and he said that he was just not happy but because he was not financially able to leave he stayed with her even though he was unhappy. Well I believed him and we became very close. We have so much in common and we have so much fun together. Well, there was also one other thing that he told me when we got together….one of those times he cheated on his wife was when he was away for military training. And now this woman says that she is having his kid. This entire time he has been communicating with her and the only way that I know this is because I have read emails from her and found text messages on his phone from her. I also found out that the first night that he told me he loved me he had spent part of that day with her. The baby was born in August of last year and he does not know if the baby is his because she is married and has cheated on her husband several times. We have been arguing about this continuously because he has been keeping things from me. He claims that it is not a lie if he just doesn’t tell me. Well the other weekend he went away on a military drill for the weekend and I usually go with him but I decided that it would be good for us to have some time apart and it was my Dad’s Birthday. Well the day after his return I found an email from her thanking him for spending time with her on Saturday and he hadn’t told me anything about seeing her or anything. I kept it to myself. Then the other day she contacted him and told him that she was getting emails from me and phone calls from me. I told him she was lying and that if she had an email from me for her to forward it to him and prove it; of course she couldn’t do this because it was a lie!! When he came home he interrogated me the entire evening. Then the following day he did it again and asked to see my phone records. I told him that I was sick of his accusations and that I did not call her and if he chose to believe her over me then he could leave. Well he started packing his things and said that he would get the rest when he came back from his military drill. We continued the conversation and it eventually ended up with him getting his way and me agreeing not to bring this topic up anymore and he stayed. Now I am sitting here thinking should I give this man a chance or what should I do? I love him with all of my heart but I am scared of getting hurt and at the same time I am scared of losing him. He claims that he doesn’t want to be with her and I honestly believe that he doesn’t but I just don’t think that it is right for him to keep things from me even though he claims that it is his life! Because of this entire situation I have come to have a hard time trusting him and it really hurts. Please help!