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Should I Move On?

Ask FreeloveMD | April 14, 2008

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I have major issues, I don’t know if I should move on or not.

I have been in love with the same guy for 6 years. We dated for the first three years and have been best friends for the last 3 years. I have been dating someone else for the past three years off and on and lying to myself about my feelings for my ex. My ex, on the other hand, has been wanting to get back together the whole time. I recently decided to quit pushing my feelings to the side and to admit how I feel about my ex. Turns out, he has been dating a girl for the past month and a half without telling me. I ask him if I should move on, but he just says he doesn’t know. He admits that he still loves me and still has romantic feelings for me, but that he is with her now and he needs to finish it so he doesn’t wonder what if. The way he talks, he doesn’t act like he really thinks it is going to last more than a few months. Also that if it ends this summer, he wants me to move in with him and get engaged shortly thereafter. I keep going back and forth on what I should do. Do I trust that six years is more than whatever this girl is and that he just needs to make sure I am the right one given that I made him wait? Do I count my loses and try to move on?

You have a serious history with this guy so you should have a good read on him. Now you both seem to be in love with each other again. You were willing to leave someone you’re dating, he’s not quite ready. Give him a chance to break-up with his current girlfriend (if he can’t do this within a reasonable time, like a month, forget him). Then see how your relationship goes once you’re together, but don’t let him set the rules. I wouldn’t move in with him until you feel you want to.

This question was answered by Joe, a love expert and FreeloveMD contributor.

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  • jessiballgirl says:
    April 15, 2008 at 2:28 pm

    I understand. I would never move in with him just because that is what he wants. I am just completely confused about how he can stay with this girl, but still talk about marriage and buying a house with me.

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