She Feels Like the Problems are Her Fault
Ask FreeloveMD | May 12, 2009
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My fiancee recently told me that she feels like the problems in our relationship are always her fault. I know it isn’t true; there are plenty of mistakes that I make, but I don’t know how to help. I would really like to know what the root of the problem is. Am I too critical and make her feel like she is the problem? Is her pain and history from her family life impinging on our own relationship? I need help!
Some people have a guilt complex. Where it comes from can vary. Perhaps see a psychologist to uncover the root of the problem. You may contribute to the condition, but from the sensitive tone of your question it sounds unlikely that you are the cause of it. You may be able to dig it up on your own. You seem to have a sense that it could be from her family, which is entirely possible. If you can correct this problem it will probably improve your relationship, so make it a priority.
Johnny says:
May 13, 2009 at 12:34 pm
I agreed with Joe and I realized that some people are born with a guilt mindset since young that something they have done wrong along the way is indirectly created by them. It will take some time to get rid of this habit by letting the person know that what’s went wrong is not related to them.