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Ask FreeloveMD Archive » She Can’t Make Up Her Mind

She Can’t Make Up Her Mind

Ask FreeloveMD | April 11, 2008

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She can’t seem to make up her mind! My ex-wife and I have been off and on for the last 2 1/2 years and recently we decided to reconcile. I quit my job to move to be with her and my baby. When I moved to town we had another falling out and she immediately started going out and seeing other people again. We have just started seeing each other again but she is still continuing her ” fun ” with other guys she meets online. When I ask if she sees a future with me she says ” I don’t know, I’m just having fun right now”.
I keep hanging around and telling her how much I care about her, hoping she will get tired of what she is doing soon, but she doesn’t seem to want to change or care. I just don’t know what to do…should I stick it out and wait or leave?

You are obviously much more settled and committed to a relationship than she is. I suggest you both seek counseling if your relationship is to have a future. Now she is basically using you, and because you love her and are more committed you are letting her do it. She needs to get her head straight if you want to be anything more than one of the “other” guys she is having fun with. If she won’t try to make an effort to focus on your relationship then perhaps you’re wasting your time and it’s time to split.

This question was answered by Joe, a love expert and FreeloveMD contributor.

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  • jjandpunlimited says:
    April 13, 2008 at 2:04 am

    well I believe she loves me but for some reason just wont say it, her family believes that she has strong feelings for me also. They are also worried about her current lifestyle. But if anybody says anything she will blow a gasket. She has done it before. So to keep peace they say nothing and worry about her. yes I do love her and am in love with her. We went out tonight and had a great time, with my baby along also. She text’s me on her lucnh hour all the time so I know she is thinking of me though she will never admit it. One of my female friends believes she may be playing hard to get with me. But I know she is dating around i.e. having relations. I guess we are all being enablers. She is comming back to my place in my town on Monday to Wednesday for her B-Day. I told her sister via email today that I will probably give it til next week after I have my baby next weekend and she goes out and then I will have to make my decision no matter how much it hurts. The thought of what she is doing hurts worse. And we all pray that she doesnt get hurt which is a very big posibility by the way she hooks up online. I mean trully do you think she has feelings for me and just needs time to figure them out?

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