Rude Husband
Ask FreeloveMD | October 31, 2007
12 Comments
I am fed up with my rude husband. My husband, in front of me, has commented to the same waitress on three separate occasions that “I am going to divorce my wife for you” or “you look like a model”. It makes me feel uncomfortable and I don’t like like it. I look at him and he tells me he is just joking. I know he knows I get upset, but he keeps flirting, and all I do is smile! I don’t know how to bring up this subject.
This is unacceptable behavior by your husband. If he cannot respect your feelings he doesn’t deserve you. Tell him exactly how you feel about his inappropriate comments. Let him know you will not tolerate that behavior, and if he continues, you will no longer go out to dinner with him.
upset waitress says:
October 31, 2007 at 5:08 pm
As a waitress, I can’t explain how uncomfortable this kind of behavior makes me feel. It makes for an awkward dining experience for yourselves and the waitress. Also, he should know that when waitresses get guys like him, we try to avoid the table altogether, which leads to less than adequate service. We hate, and I mean hate these kinds of situations. Your husband should apologize to the server for being so creepy. And you should be sorry for marrying such a weirdo that openly flirts like that. Those days are over for him when he said “I Do”.
The Upset Waitress.
Tamara says:
November 3, 2007 at 9:36 pm
I’m a cashier and like a waitress you have to deal with the public. Unfortunately for me, there has been cases where men would make flirtatious remarks in front of their spouse and I think it’s disgusting. If I was your husband’s wife I would embarass him in front of the waitress by telling him off and next time he’ll know to keep his mouth shut. If that doesn’t work divorce him and run away with Brad Pitt then call him and tell him how hot Brad Pitt is in bed.
Jason says:
November 9, 2007 at 4:34 pm
I agree with what everybody has said, a guy like that doesn’t deserve you, i would never dream of hitting on anyone while my signifacant other was near. The act is inexcusable, and anyone who thinks that that kind of behavior is ok isn’t worth your time, and i absolutley beleive you should tell him so in as public a place as you can find and tell as loud as you possibly can how rude and crude you think he is.
Amber says:
November 10, 2007 at 8:30 pm
I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through such a situation….all that kind of behavior does is cause hurt. Next time, as soon as he says that kind of thing, right in front of everyone, that that is fine if he wants a divorce then you will divorce him and he can flirt all he wants with anyone he wants, and you’ll find yourself someone that is actually worth something. And then get up and walk out, and refuse to go to any dinners with him again.
Desi T. says:
November 27, 2007 at 8:11 pm
I absolutely hate when men do that! Women (and some men) are affected by words that are said. I used to date a guy that would always make inappropriate comments and I think that anyone that does that, is disrespectful and has low-self esteem. Why would anyone gain confidence by making someone else feel inadequate. Please let your husband know how you feel because he can’t read your mind, and he needs to know that he’s being disrespectful. If he doesn’t change, please let him go because it will only get worse-trust me!!!
Tee says:
November 27, 2007 at 8:24 pm
I can relate except my husband don’t say it, he does it with his eyes. We can go to a restaurant and the waitress be there taking our order and he can’t look at her in the eyes, he looks at here in the boobs. That is humiliating. I have seen waitress expressions and they act as if they want to slap him.
It is down right rude.
Rebecca says:
November 29, 2007 at 11:33 am
I have been seeing a GREAT guy for 6 weeks. The only negative I see in him is that he gives long, lingering looks at other women and makes eye contact with them while he’s with me. Then he wonders why he gets a reaction from them – usually the attraction is reciprocated. He says he’s not aware of his behavior and feels bad that it hurts me… and promises to work on it. I’m feeling unsure and cautious about him.
ericka touray says:
December 11, 2007 at 6:17 pm
if you have a prblem with your husband or man and you are doing everything that a women need to do to please him and he is still acting out my advise is to get rid of him and move on to what makes you happy because chances are he will never change a man is like a head ache if you do treat the syptom it want go away love yourself ladies less stress is the best.
Lisa says:
December 20, 2007 at 5:23 pm
If he was only kidding that would be one thing but if he’s made these comments especially that 1st one “divorce my wife for you” 3 times to the same waitress that is going to give her a certain messages. I hat e to say this and don’t wish to make a comment that might hurt you but it sounds to me like he might be trying to pick the waitress up. It’s not mere kidding if he keeps continuously doing this and to the same waitress. Have you thought of perhaps separating from him until he starts to appreciate you more? This is very bad treatment of you and very disrespectful and seems to me like it would be very painful. You don’t want to stay in a painful marriage do you? It sounds like you really love him and want the marriage to work. He is a mean, rude and very inconsiderate man. You deserve so much better. Have you considered leaving him and one day ending up with a good man who will treat you right?
Lee says:
January 2, 2008 at 9:43 am
Just tell him how you feel. If he don’t stop, the next good looking guy you see, say the same thing.
Lee says:
February 5, 2008 at 8:37 pm
He must think he’s Prince charming. Tell the next time he does that, your going to make a scene and walk out! Leave the loser
a friend says:
February 18, 2008 at 3:55 pm
well i think this is very rude. you should bring it up casually like at the dinner table. don’t make it seem like you’ve been thinking about it. be stern with your feelings and don’t let him joke it off. i would say something like “look, i really don’t like it when you do things like that even though you say your just joking. it needs to stop. or you will be sleeping on the couch for the next year” lol that’ll straighten him up!! no but seriously it might work!