Relationship Advice
Ask FreeloveMD | December 31, 2006
2 Comments
I’ve been together with my boyfriend for over four and a half years. It’s been a pretty even relationship with no ups or downs, without too much passion or emotion, but at the same time a very stable one. Over the years I’ve become less and less physically attracted to the guy, but I still love him as a person. He adores me and promises to spend the rest of his life with me. However, my feelings for him changed from loving him as a boyfriend to loving him as a best friend.
I recently met a guy who is everything I ever wanted in a man – brain, looks, big heart. I haven’t had anything with him other than amazing conversations. I’m wildly attracted to this guy, but the problem is he will be leaving the states to work in another country.
So what do I do? Do I stay with a guy who loves me and whom I love (in a non-romantic way), or do I go for passion knowing that it’s only temporary? I also can’t imagine losing either one of them, but I know I have to make a choice. The ties with my boyfriend are obviously much stronger, but I don’t know if I can survive in a non-romantic relationship all my life. Please help.
You sound like you are trying to give yourself a reason to get out of your current relationship. On top of that you answered your own question: “I don’t know if I can survive in a non-romantic relationship all my life”. These doubts about the relationship will only grow as time goes on.
If it feels right go ahead and take a chance with your new crush, just remember the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Also, make sure you realize what you are doing when you break it off with your current boyfriend. You may never be able to get him back. Hopefully you don’t end up regretting your decision.
Michelle says:
February 11, 2007 at 8:39 pm
I am in the same situation, only the guy that I have the crush on wants something serious with me. I’m absolutely confused and nobody seems to know what to do…I’m so torn between the two
Love Quotes says:
March 18, 2007 at 12:26 am
It seems to me that women, much more so than men, have difficulty breaking off a relationship that they are dissatisfied with. If your heart is yearning for something more, why not follow it?