Comments on: My Wife Is Getting Fat

By: Bob

Bob — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 03:52:30 +0000

Just give up, I have. My wife has like 8 chins now. Those of us who don’t believe in divorce just get to be miserable the rest of our lives. If I say anything she says I’m a horrible person and that doesn’t make her want to change. If I don’t say anything she just continues to balloon. Welcome to the I married a future fat ass club.

By: Ramon

Ramon — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 02:44:54 +0000

I strongly believe that both partners should try their best to become as atractive as possible to each other. If a woman doesn´t get it, too bad for her, it´s a matter of caring about her husband. And knock this BS of not being able to go to the gym. It´s always possible, even if for just a few days per week and it´s enough. Care about your diet and there you have it: you get thinner

By: FitForLife

FitForLife — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 15:54:41 +0000

As someone who has struggled with a wife who is overweight, I can tell you it is a nightmare for any husbands. I married a woman who was 5′6” and 130 lbs. She was a little curvy and I loved it. Since then she has gone up to 160 and then after kids up to almost 200. Last kid was almost a year ago. She is still 185 lbs. I hear all the same bullshit excuses—you dont love me, famous women get thin because they have personal trainers, I have to be a mother, blah blah fucking blah. I give her time to workout, I am in good shape. She has pleny of time because shes a stay at home mom. She has morbidly obese relatives to support her own tendency to become obese. Its sickening.

I have a message for all of you women who keep making excuses. If you were once thin and became fat—your husbands ar not attracted to you any longer. They may occasionally have sex with you because there is no one else and they dont want to cheat on you…yet.
They hope you will realize that being fit and attractive to your partner is part of a marriage and you will do something to change your layers of fat and cellulite.
Im so tired of all these fat women supporting each other saying its ok and yet as soon as they get thin all they can talk about is how massively unhappy they were the whole time they were pretending to be accepting of being fat.
Its a big joke. Oh and another thing…your face, no matter how pretty doesnt matte if its surrounded by 30 layers of fat. Stop eating and get your ass to the gym and stop torturing your husbands.

By: Brandyn Rice

Brandyn Rice — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 19:59:35 +0000

I don’t get you people. It is one thing to love someone for who they are and “not judge a book by it’s cover”, but doubling your weight and looking sloppy is a bait and switch.
He is HUMAN. We have no control over what turns us on and off sexually. Attraction is controlled by our mamalian brain (our lymbic system) and not by our rational mind. In fact, our rational mind is often overruled by our mamalian one, and then an internal struggle ensues. We all have certain things that attract us to others. The way his wife was when he met her is what he is attracted to on a primal level.
If she deviates too far from that, she should expect that he would no longer find her attractive. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love her, it just means, he may not want to sleep with her. She needs to wise up.
I am a woman who LOVES to eat, but I watch it and do it in moderation. Daily exercise is a must.
Take her to couples counseling if you don’t know how to talk to her about it, before you start to resent her.

By: Kyle

Kyle — Sat, 29 May 2010 06:38:20 +0000

That whole “what’s on the inside” statement to justify people who are grossly overweight from eating too much and too much junk food in particular is baloney, and I’ll tell you why: Because in order to get that fat in the first place, they have to be very sedentary and obviously not care about what they put into their bodies. They eat too much and in particular too much junk food.

What that immediately tells me is that what’s “inside” is as bad as the outside.

What’s “inside” is a person who doesn’t give a rat’s rear what their partner thinks, or about their health, or about their appearance, or any of that.

What’s “inside” is a person lacking completely in self-control. People can control what they eat. No man would ever try the statement, “I look at other women. I can’t help it. You should just love me for who I am…” YEAH RIGHT, any man that tries that with his woman needs a boot in the rear so hard it knocks his teeth out. Similarly, women who eat too much and don’t watch WHAT they eat as well, have no excuse I think.

There’s a huge difference between gaining a few pounds naturally with age or from children, and gaining lots of pounds from sitting on your butt and stuffing your face with junk food. You have two negatives, one is consumption of too much food, the other is that the food itself is junk.

This person on the inside is lazy and uncaring and a man should not have to love someone like that.

I also don’t get this, “you need to be a role model for her” argument, that is blaming the man. Personally, any woman who is depressed and who needs me to be a role-model, without which she sulks and is depressed and eats herself into oblivion, is weakminded, has problems, and is not worth any man’s time.

Seriously, unless you’re one of those men who need a weak woman, why would anyone want someone like that for a partner??

And this goes both ways, the man needs to keep himself in basic health and shape too.

By: DD

DD — Mon, 17 May 2010 17:47:28 +0000

Welcome to “the reason that marriage doesn’t work”. Men and women should NEVER be married. It is a cultural and sociological myth that has propogated throughout the years. Homo-sapiens (humans) are not genetically monogamous (like mourning doves or mallard ducks). There is a propensity for our species to “look around” and being married only goes against this fact. I know, I know, there are plenty of gooey, happy people, who are in love and married… more power to them. For the other 99% of us (yes, I am horribly unhappily married) the daily burden lives on. Don’t keep making the same mistakes. One life to live. Be happy.

By: Aaron

Aaron — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 12:43:14 +0000

My wife keeps telling me she can’t gain weight. Because she is so tiny and always been small. She’s from Africa and not used to the typical American diet amd the way it get you fat and unhealthy fast. Well now she notice that she is gaining wieght she works two jobs and eats nothing but fast food and don’t pack her own lunches. I try to encurage my whole family to lose wieght by exercising and warring good. And maybe they will say hey if Aaron can do amd be a truck driver than I can do it to. Everytime I come home from a long two weeks on the road I see my family getting fatter and fatter. And fat is not attractive I don’t give a shit what anyone says. It makes you look older and more sloppy and lazy.

By: Rod

Rod — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 23:18:58 +0000

Why do some of you keep mixing love with sex in this discussion? He obviously loves his wife. He has just lost sexual attraction towards her. And true love by the way is a choice (agape). Its what you do, not how you feel. Emotions go up and down. Love should not be that way. But sexual desire, especially for men, is greatly increased when visualy stimulated. Why else do some men watch porn? Or have wondering eyes? Its a fact of nature. The first thing that catches a man’s eye are the looks of a women. No man is gonna step to a female who is 50 or more pounds past her normal weight unless he has some fat fetish.

And what women dont understand is, a man needs to get stimulated to get a hard on!!! How are we suppose to get an erection and be expected to keep it up when the women’s belly jiggles as much as her tits? You cant even go down on her without suffercating. And forget about her riding you. My abs and glutes are taxed if that happens.

And for all you women who say “You should love me for who i am”, He did….Until you decided to become something else….fat.

By: Riley June

Riley June — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 00:11:09 +0000

Here is the truth….from a woman who has been married for 38 years and has seen it all….love truly is blind. There are just as many unhappy and divorced skinny people as fat people. If you love someone, you love them warts and all. In fact, you tend to not see the warts in a person you truly love. If you find yourself feeling not attracted to your wife or husband, the first question is, do you really love them? If you are truthful and can admit your “love” was based on looks, you need to kindly let them go rather than spend a lifetime expecting them to keep trying to achieve the impossible. If you feel you do truly love them but still feel no DESIRE for them, it is time to go to the doctor and get your hormone levels checked – sexual desire is based solely on having normal hormone levels, and those hormones can get out of whack for many reasons. Many men start dropping testosterone levels drastically from their 30’s on. The actual cycle begins with husbands not feeling desire for their wives, the wives feeling rejected and eating instinctually to obtain the missing sexual satisfaction through food chemicals (think chocolate with champagne, known to simulate orgasmic hormonal reactions), then men blaming their wives “fatness” for their own lack of libido, and so the cycle deteriorates from there. The reverse is also true with women who have just had babies and the period of hormonal adjustment for the 1-2 years following: women feel no desire for the men, the men seek the missing satisfaction through various other addictions (food, alcohol, porn) which in turn causes the women to blame the men’s behaviors for their lack of libido, and another deteriorating cycle develops. Once hormones are back to normal levels, a man will feel desire for his “fat” wife, who will then not need food to fill the void, not to mention the great exercise of sex; a woman who has her hormones back to normal will feel desire for her “disgusting” husband, who will then not require the use of addictive substances (especially porn) to be able to perform, although as they age, they may still need the assistance of viagra, just as a wife may need the assistance of extra lubricants, simply as an aging issue. The point is, sex is intimacy of the deepest kind, and normal human behavior between two people who truly love each other will never let any other issues get in the way of being able to express that intimacy -so please people! – get your hormone levels treated before you start throwing hurtful and cruel accusations towards your other halves!

By: RealityGirl

RealityGirl — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 20:33:13 +0000

My grandmother used to say….”love goes in through the eyes and out through the eyes.” I gained some weight last year and noticed that the hubby started treating me like his roommate and looking at porn. I started working out, eating more healthily, and bought new clothes. I lost the weight and am back to where I was when we met. He can’t keep his hands off me and is flirting again. It may suck ladies…but the reality is that I think my Grandma was onto to something. Men are visual!!!