My Relationship Is A Mess
Ask FreeloveMD | March 25, 2008
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I am a young mother of 3 and will be having another in June and my relationship is a mess. The father of my children is about 6 or 7 years older than me. We have a terrible relationship. He talks to me any kind of way he wants. He makes me feel like I am not attractive anymore. He would rather watch a dirty movie than be with me. I love him unconditionally, I don’t care how he looks or how much money he makes. When he needs me I am always there, I am the person he calls when he is in trouble. What can I do to show him I am here to love him through thick and thin?
Families, jobs, and children are stressful and when people allow these responsibilities to evolve randomly then the results can be anything but favorable. People choose to get married, have children, but if they do not cultivate these choices then what seems to have happened to you is one result. You need to find time to air these issues with you husband. Counseling would also be a positive thing. It sounds like he needs to reminded of who you are and what choices he’s made (marriage, kids). He needs to realize that he has a responsibility for the family dynamics and for his relationship with you. These need to be examined, defined, and you need to reach common ground on respect or his relationship with you will wind up getting worse and worse. Start serious dialog with him and don’t let up till you get him engaged in talking about the situation.