My relationship has become an abusive one and we are both to blame! I have been with my child’s father for six years now. Our son is five years old. We were together for about four months before I became pregnant. My sons father and I fight daily. Some of our fights become physical. In the beginning I think that I started the physical altercations. After our child was born I no longer would put my hands on him unless he hit me first. Lately our fighting has become worse. On one occasion I ended up with a black eye, and most recently I cut myself so badly with a razor, when trying to defend myself from him, that I needed twenty stitches. I feel like I am to blame for starting the arguments but he always the first to get physical. I know this cannot be good for a child. I grew up seeing my mother abused, and feel that may be the reason I am the way I am. I do however, love him and want to be with him especially for our son. But I often feel that I am being abused, or being abusive myself. What should I do?