My Neighbor Is After My Husband
Ask FreeloveMD | July 29, 2008
3 Comments
My single neighbor only comes outside when my husband is outside and she only speaks to him when I am not present…I believe she is after him, he thinks I am crazy! He defends her but he doesn’t stand up for me…how should I handle this??
She may be flirting and he’s just being a guy.. ie loving it. So that’s why he stands up for her. A little innocent flirtation never hurt anyone. Just make sure that’s all it amounts to.
Beth Lamonica says:
August 3, 2008 at 8:21 pm
The woman that wrote the question asked what she should do. First she needs to be open and honest with how she is feeling (threatened? insecure? jealous?) and look directly at why she is feeling that way. If she has a great relationship with her husband (I’m afraid that they might not have open and safe communication) but maybe she can actually explain how she feels. And ask him to reciprocate. Jealousy is a difficult emotion to deal with. Him just “being a guy” is a disempowering excuse to not be in touch with his feelings and not being supportive of his wife’s concerns. This whole situation could be handled with love and support if both would quit trying to hide their true feelings.
Jan says:
August 9, 2008 at 1:57 am
I agree. His innocent ego boosting is hurtful and disrespectful to his wife. He NEEDS to adress this issue and the neighbors inappropriate behavior to the neighbor and do it with the wife present. Otherwise, the OW will think its ok to continue and she probably also behaves this way to upset the wife.
Jan says:
August 9, 2008 at 2:01 am
I have dealt with the same situation and he got mad at ME for “overacting”…so, I arranged for a single male neighbor to show ME attention and THAT is not allowed (according to my guy). Double standard. haha Now he ignores her completely.