My Husband’s Many Girl Friends on Facebook
Ask FreeloveMD | June 18, 2009
8 Comments
My husband has many girl friends on his Facebook page. They are all friends from his childhood. He has 25 girl friends only 4 of which I know. There is one girl in particular I don’t like him talking to. His mom has made stupid comments about how how they used to be friends, how she thought they were going to end up together and how she is so cute. This was before Facebook. Now he actually talks to her by messaging and writing on her wall back and forth. I believe that a man should only have girl friends that belong to his wife and vice versa. I told him that he would have to decide what matters most: his “friendship” or his marriage. So far he is only saying that they are just friends and nothing more. I know he wouldn’t cheat on me but I am so insecure because he treats these other people nicely and tells them how happily married we are, when the truth is we fight all the time. I want these girls outta here! No more Facebook. He isn’t listening. Why is this friendship so worth holding on to? I mean the girl hasn’t heard from him in over 7 years! What’s the big deal now? He says it’s just neat to see what people have done with their lives as adults. That’s fine with me…but just do it with the guys. He is completely overstepping the boundaries. Would you agree with me on this?
lily23 says:
June 20, 2009 at 11:35 pm
Allowing these small relationships to develop seems so miniscule and innocent time being for him, however it lowers your self-worth and desirability. You feel the need to let him have these non-personal relationships to show trust and reiterate your strong love and commitment. However the truth being that allowing this relationship to develop just opens up new doors to more inappropriate behavior, which in time will appear less inappropriate to you. At the time this relationship may be insignificant to him as well, but allowing a strong bond to form between your husband and another woman is unhealthy in any aspect of your marriage. You have to put an end to this relationship, (and that is what it is, no sugar coating).
Make him realize that he is showing that he devalues your marriage by allowing other women to make you feel insignificant. As hard as it sounds Communication is key in any strong relationship. Trust is equally as important, however allowing these vast opportunities for other relationships are just opening up the flood gates for an unfaithful marriage. The sanctity of marriage is the utmost value of your life and if you have children or plan to have children, their lives as well.
I hope this can be of some help to you, or in any sense show you that what you are feeling is more than a female intuition that this behavior is not acceptable.
weather says:
June 21, 2009 at 7:36 am
alright guys, so my fiance is OK!!! aparently it’s just some nodules that are harmless… SWEET!!!
April Braswell says:
November 15, 2009 at 11:41 pm
Hi Free Love MD,
I just stumbled across your great dating assistance website today.
Wow, isn’t it the truth, all of the online flirting that goes on with MySpace and Facebook. Indeed, when that many of his FB friends are girls and he doesn’t cherish your feelings… Well, isn’t a good man supposed to cherish your feelings? That is certainly part of my criteria for a continuing relationship, especially when you’ve brought it up like. I don’t expect a man to be a mind reader, afterall. But once you’ve talked about it….
Your advice sounds right on target to me.
April Braswell
liton says:
February 13, 2010 at 2:27 pm
fine
liton says:
February 13, 2010 at 2:28 pm
fine beatiful
liton says:
February 13, 2010 at 2:30 pm
excellent
liton says:
February 13, 2010 at 2:30 pm
more beautiful
liton says:
February 13, 2010 at 2:32 pm
i have no language about that