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My Husband Left and I am Pregnant

Ask FreeloveMD | May 18, 2008

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My husband left me 2 weeks ago and I am 6 1/2 months pregnant with our 3rd child. We’ve been together 6 years and married 1 year out of that 6. I haven’t been calling him because I don’t want to bother him or get him annoyed and then he won’t consider coming back to his family. He calls to talk to the girls and then I’ll talk to him for a minute and then hang up. Well he called me a couple days ago to do the normal talk with the girls and then I talked to him and he told me that he was going to move so he could get a fresh start (we are already living in separate states at the moment him in Oklahoma and me in Missouri). He seemed hesitant to get off the phone like he was trying to find something else to say but instead told me thats all he wanted to tell me. Then he called yesterday and I wasn’t home so he told my mom to tell me to give him a call when I got back. So I did. Well all he wanted to do was ask me if we had bought vacuum bags for the vacuum cleaner. Now I was wondering why he would call me to ask me such a random question. Do you think he is trying to find a reason just to call and talk to me? Or not?

Did he ever tell you why he left, other than to get a “fresh start?” Which to me sounds like a cop out. It sounds like the two of you didn’t communicate extensively. The only way to understand if someone means something other than what they said is to ask them. Next time you talk to him try to understand how he feels about you. One of you needs to address the real issues between the two of you. What’s the next step? There are 2 children and 1 on the way that are affected. You need to focus on the particular needs of your kids and if he has any pride/responsibility he does too. Perhaps by discussing your family situation and how it’s going to work you’ll find out more about his feelings and motives. Forget about vacuum bags.

This question was answered by Joe, a love expert and FreeloveMD contributor.

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  • Diana says:
    June 5, 2008 at 10:13 pm

    I really feel for you when I read about your issue and think you are stronger than what you give yourself credit for.I truly believe if he is cruel enough for walking out like he did I don’t think he is worth you trying to read too much in to his intentions.He might be calling to talk to your children but he is really only considering himself if he is talking this nonsense about making a fresh start.What about your children?Does he not understand how this will impact them while he is off making his fresh start or doesn’t he care?I think you should start focusing on your pregnancy and your two children because if he is worth anything at some point he might get the hint you are moving on and come to his senses.

  • MDMomof3 says:
    July 3, 2008 at 7:39 pm

    I wish I had answer for you. But I know how you feel and know how horrible you may feel at times. I am 7 mo. pregnant with our third and my husband can’t make up his mind whether he wants to stay with us, or live the “single” life. One day he has me promise we’ll be together for ever, then the next he wants to leave and start all over.

    I wish you the best of luck and you’re not alone.

  • Natalia says:
    September 5, 2008 at 2:52 am

    Same thing here. My husband left, and the truth is that I told him to leave if he wasn’t happy, so he did. Just like that, he left, picked up some of his stuff and left the next day. I’m still trying to figure out if I want him back or not, because how can someone just be so cold hearted and leave a family like they are yesterdays news, you know? I have a son and I have been thinking and thinking of what do to get money, and spend the least amount of time away from him, I really feel for you guys that have a 2 or 3 kids, how can men be such dogs to walk out of their kids lives, destroy a family just like that. Good luck girls…..pray, and pray, ohhh yeah, read “How to become a better you” it will help you, great motivator.it’s helping me get through these tough times. I’ve been meditating and prayer, man it’s worked wonders I have not felt sad, or worried. I know I will succeed, keep pushing forward you have the most valuable thing in the world…your kids. They are the strenght you need, they need you. Love them, pray, and buy that book I really recommend it. Lots of Faith, and trust in god.

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