Ask FreeloveMD | June 13, 2008
My husband and I have been together for twelve years but I feel like he doesn’t listen and takes me for granted in many different ways. I have tried to tell him how I feel but he gets defensive and we end up arguing. Later he will say that things will be different but they never are. I am getting to the point where I resent him and feel like I need to fight for what I deserve. How do we break out of this cycle and be happy together again?
The cycle is not going to change unless you are both willing to make the appropriate changes so the relationship will work. If he gets defensive every time you tell him how you feel the situation is never going to get better. You need to express all your emotions and tell him why you feel like he does not listen and takes you for granted. If he is unwilling to change you are constantly going to be in a battle and this it is never going to be healthy. You have to think about yourself and what you truly want in life. Remember life is too short to be miserable with one person.
This question was answered by Jasmine, a love expert and FreeloveMD contributor.