My Ex Hooked Up with Someone Else
Ask FreeloveMD | November 12, 2009
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My ex hooked up with someone else and now wants to get back together. We had been dating for three years but recently (3 weeks ago) broke up because we were fighting a lot and things just didn’t seem “right” anymore. During the break we have stayed in contact the whole time and often times talk about how much we miss each other and how we are still in love. Now my ex wants to get back together, only problem is he has admitted that he was “with” someone else for one night during our break. I don’t know what to do I am so torn. Is this forgivable?
Up to you and the circumstances. However, the fact that he hooked up with someone in just 3 weeks is troubling. Discuss the issue and his rational and then decide if this is a one time behavior thing because of the circumstances, or is it likely to happen again the next time things aren’t going smoothly.
April Braswell says:
November 15, 2009 at 11:44 pm
Hi Joe,
sage advise. I really like and admire how you handled that question. I know some women would have been running and screaming that he had “cheated” on her. When in fact, they were broken up and not a couple. Just… (just like you said) this might not be a good fit for the two of you. Just because you love and care for each other doesn’t mean you have aligned values and well-suited for life partnership (or marriage) together. Don’t you find we women often have a harder time perceiving that? that we are more *wistful sigh* moved by our sentiments and emotions for those major decisions?
Cheers,
April Braswell