My Best Friend’s Boyfriend
Ask FreeloveMD | July 10, 2007
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My best friend’s boyfriend is a jerk. He makes fun of her and says mean things to her all the time. When they are around each other they usually fight. He is always making her cry and hurting her feelings. They broke up several weeks ago and she was devastated. Then he called her back crying the same night and they got back together! I’m trying to make her see that he’s not going change and they need to break up, but she can’t seem to see it. What can I do to help or make her feel better?
Unfortunately your best friend is blinded by love. There really isn’t too much you can do to change her mind. You want her to be happy, but she isn’t when she is with him. Let her know you are concerned, and you hate to see her so upset all of the time. Make sure you stay supportive and helpful, and avoid being confrontational. Hopefully she will realize he is a jerk as time goes on.
Samantha says:
July 22, 2007 at 10:38 pm
Your bestfriend doesnt see a problem when their together, you can simply ask her to look at her own life in someone elses shoes. I was in an abusive relationship and I knew when he was hitting me and making fun of me that i didn’t deserve that, but when we weren’t fighting we had so much fun and it was as if nothing bad ever happened. One morning I woke up with 4 cuts on my left leg as if someone had torn chunks out of my legs with their nails. One of my friends told me I needed to get out before it got worse but I kept denying that there was a problem till she told me to look at our relationship from her perspective. After a week of looking over all my scars and bruises I realized that I had to leave. That was the easy part I had to move out of town just to avoid him, he would harrass me at work and made me lose my job. Let her know your just concerned about her safety, she will deny it but you’ll have to keep high hopes that she’ll realize there’s a problem before it gets worse.