Losing Feelings For My Boyfriend
Ask FreeloveMD | November 17, 2006
3 Comments
I currently live with my boyfriend of 4 years. Lately I have not felt the connection we once had. I know I still love him, but I do not feel it is as genuine as it had been in the past I have also been under a lot of stress lately. I am confused by these feelings. Is it simply a phase that will subside? Or should I just call it quits? To make matters worse, I have also started talking to this other guy I met at school. We are just friends but I know that he has romantic feelings for me and I am developing those same feelings for him. I realize this isn’t fair to my boyfriend, what should I do?
You should break up with your boyfriend. The fact that you are questioning your love for him is a bad sign. This could be a phase, but more than likely it is not. You said yourself, you fail to feel the connection you and he once had. It isn’t fair for you to keep this a secret. The more you try to ignore it the more you will end up thinking about it.
It also isn’t fair that you are flirting with someone at school behind his back and having “romantic feelings” for this person. How would you feel if you knew he was flirting with some girl behind your back? Do the right thing and breakup with him. Tell him you need time to figure some things out. You may end up realizing that you really do love him, or you may realize you don’t. Either way, you will be taking a chance that he might move on and never take you back.
Sisterly Advisors says:
November 18, 2006 at 1:12 am
From the ladies at Sisterly Advice: 1) Jena: Move on girl 2) Michelle: Why waste another year with someone that has lost your heart? 3) Elana: Girl, I feel your pain. But you have invested four years in this other man. Its time to get down and dirty and really figure out what the problem is, and until I do that I personally would not just jump ship. I would give this some very deep thought and I would be having a lot of discussions with my partner.
heath c says:
February 25, 2007 at 12:23 am
I currently love my boyfriend of .92 years. Lately I have felt a better connection than we have ever have. I know I still love him, but we have been under a lot of stress lately because he saw this page on my browser! I was just browsing relationship websites but he took it more seriously. I love him deeply and want him to know that. What should I do??
PS – thanks a lot whoever wrote this!
confusedd says:
August 11, 2009 at 5:40 pm
I have this boyfriend that I’ve had for about 10 or 11 months, and he’s cheated on me during those months. Like he cheated on me with my bestfriend one time, and this other time with this girl that i disliked he kissed her. Then he cheated again with this other girl i disliked. Then one time he was with his friend’s girlfriend and he tried touching her. In places, and he never told me. I had to find out on my own. But funny thing is, he never breaks up with me. I’m starting to realize that he’s hurt me way too much and that maybe we weren’t to be..But then again he’s telling me he loves me, and I’m confused whether i love him or not ? I also realized that he does care about me, well that’s what he says. What should I do?