Long Distance Phone Frustration
Ask FreeloveMD | May 30, 2007
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I have been in a somewhat long distance relationship with my boyfriend going on three years now. We see each other maybe 2-3 times a month or less. Every time we are together we are in harmony, almost perfect. When we are apart and talking to each other on the phone we seem to be so off balance. We have miscommunication, impatience, frustration, lacking understanding for each other’s thoughts and emotions. We will get into disagreements sometimes. Why is it that we seem to lose that strong, solid, deep love we seem to have in person?
Long distance relationships can be really tough to manage. Talking on the phone as a substitute for real interaction can be very frustrating for both sides. One problem is the difficulty in reading someone’s mood and emotions on the phone. Misreading your partner will often lead to petty arguments that wouldn’t happen if you two were holding a conversation in person. You both need to be patient and understanding of the stress a long distance relationship creates.
It would also be a great idea to make plans to move closer together. Three years is a long long time to carry on a long distance relationship. It can be difficult to assess a relationship with someone you only see a few times a month. You cannot predict how the relationship will work when you see each other every day. Oftentimes the best long distance relationships turn into the worst everyday relationships. You will never really know if it is going to work out unless you move closer together.
Kristen says:
June 17, 2007 at 10:08 pm
I understand your frustration I too am in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend did live close by when we met and we saw each other almost everyday and things were great. He then was transfered with his job and is now 6 hours away. He has been gone since February and we have only seen each other 3 times since he has left. It is very trying and sometimes I think this will not work. When we see each other things are great and then there is the phone and I am having a very hard time so we have had disagreements and sometimes the conversations are not so great. I wish I had some answers. I just think that long distance relationships are very trying and eventually you have to make a decision to either move closer or end the relationship. I don’t think that long distance can last forever. I know for myself I can’t do it much longer but I have such feelings that I can’t walk away either.