I believe I have found the love of my life. We have been together for two years and engaged for 15 months. We are in love, but we have had our share of problems.

I am ready to settle down with her. I want nothing more than to come home to her every night and for us to have a family together. I want us to get married this summer, and she has shown enthusiasm about it, but problems keep coming up. Recently she has wanted to go out to clubs and hang out with other people more often. I, being slightly insecure and worried about her safety, have argued with her and pleaded for her not to go. She says she should be able to make her own decisions and does whatever she wants, but I think that I should be able to have some say about things that make me uncomfortable. I feel like making compromises on issues like this is an important aspect of a relationship, but she insists that she should be able to do things without having to talk to me. Am I out of line? What should I do?

I love her more than anything in this world, but I feel like she is being selfish. I feel like I give and give and give, and she’s not willing to compromise at all about things that bother me.