Is Eight Years Too Much Of A Difference?
Ask FreeloveMD | June 26, 2008
4 Comments
Is eight years too much of an age difference? I met this guy and he is so cute and I like him, but the problem is that he is 18 and I am 26. I really don’t know what to do. It doesn’t bother him that I am that much older than him, but it bothers me and that’s the only reason that I don’t want to pursue the relationship. What should I do?
I’d say,find somebody else. It’s not the age difference, but when it’s occurring. He’s still a teenager. If he was 30 and you were 38 I’d say go for it. The probability of the relationship lasting now is slim. There are bound to be numerous issues with friends, family, etc. The bottom line is that if you pursue it do so knowing it would likely be a short term fling.
Familiar person says:
July 3, 2008 at 1:06 am
I agree with the comment that it’s not about the years but the time in the life it occurs. I’m 25 and my boyfriend is 34 but we are more in the same place right now. You do have to be aware of things though. For example, why do you like this guys is it be cause he acts like he’s 21 and not really stable and what you like will it be good in the long haul. Just some things to think about. If you do decide to continue the relationship I wish you well just keep your mind open.
Diane says:
July 10, 2008 at 4:38 pm
I am 45 and my boyfriend is 25, we have been together for over a year. We get along great, but I am concerned about our future.
Jenjila says:
July 31, 2008 at 5:26 am
I’m in a relationship with a man that is 25 and I’m 32. Seven years difference. I think it’s rough. I get his friends wanting to know my age and his parents making harsh comments towards me all the time. They think I’m his sugar momma. I’d have to say, with my 7 years more of experience than his, it’s a huge difference. In the beginning it didn’t bother me as much but for our future together, I’m scared. I use to have respect from his sister and family, now nothing. I feel insulted all the time. I don’t think it’s a good idea.
anita says:
August 12, 2008 at 5:09 pm
I’m 39 and my boyfriend is 31. If Ihad it to do all over again, I would have listened to my first instincts and NOT gotten involved with him!
We are at different stages in life and he wants to hang out and party with his friends ALL the time while
We now have a child together and she is the love of my life, but at the same time my love for this man is slowly turning into bitterness, resentment and even hatred while I’m trying to be everything to my daughter and he’d rather be with his friends.
I know not all men in their early thirties are like this, but this is unfortunately what I am tied to for the next 17 years.
Yes, the issue is selfishness but the age difference doesn’t help.