I Have a Crush On My Professor

Ask FreeloveMD | April 16, 2010

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I have a crush on my old professor and don’t know what to do! About a year ago I had a class with an amazing professor. He was a good teacher and very attractive. He is funny, smart and kind of nerdy, which I like. He and I talked a few times after class about our personal lives, just family and friend kind of things. He was always very nice but it seemed strictly business. He’s not married and I don’t think he has ever been (I’m not trying to break up a marriage). There are a couple of “problems”. I’m 25 and he is 40, this doesn’t bother me at all but I don’t know if it would bother him. He was my professor and I don’t know if he will always see me as a student even though I no longer attend that college. I’m not in love with him or anything crazy like that, just a crush. I would just like to get to know him better and see where that goes. In the coming months I have to go back to my former school and take one last class and I know I will see him. I want to tell him how I feel but I’m afraid. I don’t know what to say or how to say it. The worst he could say is no but I don’t want to look stupid. I would just like some advice on what I should do or whether this is just a bad idea.

First see if there is any way you can “bump into him” socially. If you could meet him in a less direct way (other than emailing, calling, or telling him you’d like to go out with him) it would be better. However, if that’s not possible you’d want to somehow make an initial connection. Stop by his class or office and tell him you remember his class and chat etc. From there you’d perhaps see if there is a mutual interest. Then you could call, email, or ask him to have lunch, coffee, a drink and it wouldn’t be so awkward. You could also go the route where you keep giving him clues and see if he asks you out. He may see you as a former student, but he’s also a man and you’re a woman and remember he was a former student too.

This question was answered by Michael, a love expert and FreeloveMD contributor.

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