I Ended My Affair But I Can’t Get Over Him
Ask FreeloveMD | May 17, 2008
4 Comments
Six years ago I had an affair with a friend of a friend, I ended it but I just can’t seem to get over him. I have seen him here and there and never spoken to him, but I’m almost positive he could hear the thundering of my heart! I need to get over this, I need to get over him, and just when I think I’m rid of him…I’ll see him and the feelings will come rushing back! Help!!
You need to give it time. It is understandable that the feelings will not immediately go away but the relationship is not going to work and you need to accept that. It will be hard and will hurt but you might want to avoid situations when you know you might see this person. It is something that can help you move on and that is what you need.
Katja says:
July 5, 2008 at 1:27 am
I understand what you are going through I am in a similar sitation. I have not ended it yet but I am thinking about it. I am head over heals inlove with him but I am married with two kids. I love to be with him and the sex it amazing every time I am with him. He has never told me how he feels about me. I know I have to end it soon if I want to keep my marriage. I love my husband but he drives me crazy with passion. So I know I will be in your shoes soon.
Katja
Dee says:
February 3, 2009 at 1:29 pm
I never thought I would be in this position. An ex boyfriend from college came back into my life; I have been married for 28 years, and have 3 grown children. I was faithful up until then, never a thought of infidelity in my head. Now, it’s been 3 years since the affair. I know he loves/ loved me which makes it even harder to get over, ask forgiveness for and go on with living because part of me still is in love with the other man. I see articles on the person who was hurt by an affair, and rightly so, but what about those of us who are suffering because we have no one to talk to who understands?
Terry says:
March 1, 2009 at 8:42 pm
Hello,
I do not have the answers you seek, but I am in the same circumstance. Iam really suffering over this. It was my first affair, it was not planned but it just happened. I wait for his call but it never comes. He is married. Being adults, I knew it would never go anywhere, but I loved him so. I do not know what to do now. I just wish he could have told me and said goodbye.
John says:
October 1, 2009 at 7:23 pm
I know what your going through ! I ended my 3 year affair with my friend and I can’t stop thinking about her ! The only difference is that she asked me why ,, that I should have waited for her … I miss her so much sometime I ask myself was it the right thing to do ? But what if she gets bored of me in the future , will she cheat on me with another guy ? or with her ex-husband ? Think about that !!