I don’t know who my husband loves more! My husband and I have been married for 7 years. Six months ago welcomed twin boys into the world. Our relationship has always emotional and stormy (with me primarily being a criticizer and aggressor), however we were always the best of friends and loved each other. Two days ago I found out my husband was having an affair with a co-worker and I am devastated. I want desperately to make this marriage work, but the more I try the more depressed he gets. From my point of view he is having a hard time dealing with the break up of his affair and going through some kind of withdrawal, however he assures me he stopped any contact with this person(she lives overseas). He says he wants to make it work between us for the babies and I am trying to put the spark back into our marriage by organizing a week-end trip for the two of us to start from zero. My question is why does he act so withdrawn? Does this mean deep down he did not want to leave the other person?