I Don’t Know Which Guy To Choose
Ask FreeloveMD | May 5, 2008
3 Comments
I don’t know what to do, which guy do I choose? My relationship with my boyfriend has been rocky since December, although we have stayed together and tried to make it work. At the beginning of the year, because of the hard times with my boyfriend, I ran into the arms of a married man. He and I have remained friends and we sleep together every now and then. The problem is I am crazy about him, but I love my boyfriend too and we have been through so much together. What should I do?
If your boyfriend finds out about the married guy you’ll probably be going through more hard times. When people become involved in relationships a certain amount of commitment is expected. It’s different for everybody, but if you want to have your cake and eat it too expect consequences. Obviously, the married guy doesn’t care if you’re seeing someone else. It’s your boyfriend that you stand to lose. Is the trade off worth it?
Autumn says:
March 4, 2009 at 4:01 pm
First of all, you need to think about how the other women of that married man is going to feel like when she finds out. Would you want to be cheated on? And, obviously, if you choose the married man, who says he’s not gonna cheat on you if he’s already cheated on his wife? I think ou should stop the shit with both of them and find a new man or learn how to be an independent women. A girl doesn’t need a man to complete her life.
starlet says:
April 21, 2009 at 12:39 am
I understand completely what your going through. I’ve been there myself. First, he is never gonna leave his wife. No matter how much he says he dont love her. He isnt gonna leave her. If he didnt love her, than he would of left her awhile go. Especially if he has kids with her. I really dont think he has the intentions of leaving her. My my case, it was just about the sex. Of course he is going to be nice and sweet to you. Why buy the cow if the milk is free??? like i said, he’s not going to leave his wife for you. Let’s just clear that up. and all that is going to happen is, Your gonna be left severely broken hearted! So be careful. What is the point of being in a marriage if your not going be faithful? my mother always told me “IF YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW A GUY WILL TREAT YOU, LOOK AT HOW HE TREATS OTHER PEOPLE” that’s the bottom line. If he however does leave his wife, it’s probably because she left him or, it wasnt because he left her for you. i’m telling you, guys like that are snakes. they are only after one thing. if you get together with him, he might do the same thing to you what he did to his wife, so look out for the warning signs…this guy isnt good realtionship material.
As for your boyfriend, you may being going through difficult times right now, every relationship does, it’s never gonna be perfect, your gonna fight, you might break up now and than. But make sure it’s the decision you really want to make. because once he finds out about the married man, and that married man dont want to be with you, you will be left thinking about the boyfriend and what a bad decision you made. If your boyfriend is faithful to you than you already have what alot of relationships dont have. You made a commitment to your boyfriend. You should follow through with that commitment. you owe him that much to be honest and faithful. If you cannot do that, than maybe itwasnt meant to be, but dont leave him because of the married man. leave him because you gave the relationship your ALL…and it just didnt work out…IF you cannot be faithful than end the relationship, Because you at least owe your boyfriend that much respect. goodluck Hope you get what you want.
Jill says:
February 7, 2010 at 6:03 pm
Please get out. I had a three year affair with a married man. Around the holidays this year, I decided it was an awful way to live. I met a really nice guy through a friend and have had a great time dating him. We can be seen in public, what a difference. In the last week, the married man has left his wife. Now what, I should continue with the guy I am dating. The married man and I will not be able to be seen in public for a long time. Get out. It is a freaking mess