I can not seem to get over my ex-girlfriend, it is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do. We were together for 2 1/2 years, when she broke my heart. She was and still is the only one I have ever loved. No relationships since have worked out. After our relationship ended and the three- month depression that followed, we tried again two more times. Both attempts failed. Each time we got back together, I felt she was less invested than before. It has been almost 1 1/2 years since we were last together and my feelings can sometimes fade, but never go away. At first, I was not able to let go, but I made a decision that if I did not close off communication with her completely, I would never be able to move on. For the past year, she has been contacting me, usually every 3-6 months. Sometimes a birthday call, some big news that came up, or just to talk and catch up. No matter how hard I tried I could not resist talking to her, sometimes our conversations would last up to 2 hours. This last occurrence, her grandfather passed away and she asked me to attend the services, which I of course went to. She was happy to see me, but I felt that her feelings might only be friendly. As for me, I had gotten used to controlling my feelings after talking to her over the phone, but seeing her in person brought feelings that I could not control. I kept my composure in front of her, but afterward all I felt was heartache and the wishful thinking that someday she would come back to me. She has been in a relationship for about a year now, living in the same home as her partner and she told me that she does love him. When she last broke up with me, she told me that if fate has it we might rejoin one day. I still have feelings, thoughts, dreams and fantasies about her. She has a very busy and stressful life, and I do not want to add to her stress. Do you think I should tell her if she doesn’t already know? I have been living my life the best I can, but I live with emptiness.