I Am Falling Out of Love
Ask FreeloveMD | June 17, 2008
2 Comments
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 6 years and I feel like I am falling out of love with him. We were high school sweethearts and we dated all through college. I have never been a huge fan of marriage and he is ready to get married. Lately we haven’t been as close, not seeing each other very often and when we do there isn’t the same closeness anymore. Our sex life is nearly gone completely and we haven’t been showing as much affection as we used to. I feel like we are in a rut. And we’re only 23. Is there hope for us?
Sounds like you either are or have grown apart or you need an infusion of enthusiasm in your relationship. Relationships like everything else need to be worked on or they may grow stale. Plan a trip together and see if you can rekindle feelings. If so plan to devote more time and energy to the relationship when you return.
Serendipity5683 says:
July 3, 2008 at 1:19 am
I had a similar situation with my highschool boyfriend but we went and got engaged which wasn’t the best decision. What I recommend is really working at it and trying to figure out if there is something that has changed. Maybe something that originally drew to the person that is different or bothering you. If you just can’t make it work be respectful and end it. I would recommend ending contact for alittle bit both of you will need time to become your own person again instead of the couple. Hope this helps.
Jessica says:
July 12, 2008 at 8:11 pm
I am in this situation right now, and every day is a struggle to see why we started dating in the first place. People change so much between high school and their mid twenties. I am beginning to look at him as the best friend I ever had, but not as a lover or husband. Six years is a long time to spend with someone, so there is that urge to stay becaue you feel like you’re losing something that’s always been a part of you. We used to have alot in common, but now we can only get along when we do neutral things together such as watching movies or something he likes to do (like fishing, because I like the boat ride). How do you end something that’s lasted that long without someone getting angry or resentful?