I Am Afraid Of My Ex
Ask FreeloveMD | August 4, 2008
2 Comments
I have been divorced for more than a year and I am still afraid of my ex. He was never physically abusive but he terrified me all the same. We have a 20 year old daughter who now refuses to talk to him because he also terrifies her. What can we do to overcome this?
Avoid him if possible or be with someone else when you do see him. Moving away would be the best, but that might not be possible. Don’t allow yourself to become engaged verbally or otherwise with him. The more you can create a gap the less power he’ll have. Hopefully over time he will be less and less an issue.
Susie says:
August 6, 2008 at 6:12 pm
I was afraid of my ex as well even though he never physically abused me or my children. Time is what enabled me to get over these feelings as well as surrounding myself in things that were positive. You obviousally have to deal with him because you share a child. Remind yourself before you have to speak with him that he does not have the power to control your life any longer. When you have finished talking with him take the time to center yourself again even if only to take a few deap breaths. Most importantly congratulate yoruself for the small steps such as not falling to pieces each time you talk with him. Its a long road and sometimes, somethings will set you back but you have the power to control this! Good luck.
Shaina says:
August 14, 2008 at 3:57 pm
Moving somewhere distant would be the best option but if that’s not possible just try your best to avoid him in anything you do whether it’s communicating through the phone or email and espcially in person.