How Do I Know If He Wants To Get Married?
Ask FreeloveMD | October 10, 2008
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How do I know if he wants to get married? I am 33 and am dating a man who is 57. I am completely in love with him and I really do believe he loves me too. I would like to get married, but he has been married three times and I am not sure he is willing to go a 4th time. We joke around about me being #4 (we discuss all of his ex-wives, he calls them #1,#2), but it has been 2 years and I am starting to feel like it may never happen. He told me he proposed to all three of his previous wives within the first year. Do you think he will ever propose or is he scared of marriage now?
Only he knows the answer to that. I would think he might be “married out”. Have you discussed it with him? Perhaps he thinks that by telling you about his previous wives that he’s made the point that he doesn’t want to get married again. Start throwing around some hints or even tell him how you feel. Ask yourself if marriage is a deal breaker in the relationship. If you are happy and your relationship is good why do you need marriage? It seems pretty obvious he and marriage don’t exactly seem to get along.
Angela Delvecchio says:
October 25, 2008 at 9:10 pm
You’re 33!! You’ve got your whole life and he’s lived most of his. He’s done it 3 times already and perhaps he is completely content dating.
That said, how will being “married” change things for you two? Will a ring on your finger make you love him more? Will it make you any more committed? from what you say, doubtful.
The only way to find out what his intentions are is to ask. If you feel uncomfortable doing so, take that as a sign that maybe neither of you are ready or looking for that step.