His Ex-Girlfriend
Ask FreeloveMD | August 7, 2006
5 Comments
I have been dating this guy for a year and he says he loves me but he is always talking about his ex-girlfriend. He sees her all the time and I really think they are still an item. He is the one that broke up with her, but he said, “She loves him to pieces”. He said that she is his best friend and I have nothing to worry about. He even still has a key to her house. I told him that she is never going to move on if he is always there. He still insists they are just friends. He has told me that if we ever break up, he would probably marry her just to help her out. I think I’m being used and he never broke up with her. For the past two weekends he has disappeared and when I asked him where he was, he says he went fishing…alone. I’ve asked him many many times to tell me what’s going on, and he still insists on saying nothing. What should I do? I just want the truth. Should I end this so called relationship?
Yes you should end this “so called relationship”. There is a very good chance he is seeing her behind your back. All the signs are pointing to the obvious, he is using you. Get out as fast as you can.
stepmom54 says:
November 6, 2006 at 1:25 am
Girl you better dump this guy fast! He is using you, for what I am not sure, but that is too odd of a situation. He just disappears and then says he was fishing alone all weekend?!? Sounds fishy to me=:) If for some reason you don’t want to leave, you just need to tell him he has to pick one…you or her. That should probably show you alot!
sunnydays says:
November 6, 2006 at 1:31 am
I am sorry but I have to agree with the previous posters. This guy is acting shady! You should be his best friend, not his ex-girlfriend, especially since you two have been dating for a year!! I agree with you, it is not healthy or helping either one of them move on if they are still hanging out and talking a lot. I don’t this this guys is worth your time and you could do much better. I really think you should cut your ties with him completely and let the two of them be together without having to sneak around. Good luck finding happiness because this guy is not going to provide it for you.
flyygirl says:
November 7, 2006 at 10:53 pm
Girl, you need to move on. This man is definitely cheating on you with his ex. What was his excuse for still having the key to her house?? I think he is just stringing you along. Move on you deserve better.
Norman says:
November 11, 2006 at 12:13 am
I have been in your position, but for 4 1/2 yrs. He is lying to you. He has given you all the cues, and clues that you need. He does not respect you or the relationship. He says he would marry her to help her out??? What BS is that? Best friends??? No way. You should be his best friend. If he is not physically cheating on you, then he is at least involved in “emotional infidelity”. Be graceful. Let him go and find someone worthy of your love.
Davis says:
January 28, 2009 at 10:42 pm
Hey! CINDY! IS THIS YOU!! OMG! IM SORRY BABY! I DIDNT THINK ALL THIS WOULD UPSET YOU….