He Is Cheating On Me With His Ex-Wife
Ask FreeloveMD | October 9, 2008
2 Comments
I recently caught my husband cheating on me with his first ex-wife. After a lot of fighting I found it in my heart to forgive him. He promised me he would not do it again but I am having a hard time believing him. I catch myself thinking he is lying to me all the time. I made him call her and tell her in front of me that it was over, but I got his phone and saw that he had had a 20 minute conversation with her before he had come home that day. She then sent him a text that she would step back and leave him alone. I just can’t help but think that they set that up to make me believe it was over. Finally, two days ago I looked at his phone while he was in the shower and I saw that there was a voice mail from his ex and she said “why didn’t you answer your phone, you are suppose to jump when I call. Anyway just wanted to say hi call me back”. When I questioned him about it he got really mad said that he did not know why she had called cause he had not talked to her. He got so mad he broke his phone and said “there are you happy now no one can call me”. I threatened to leave the next day and he begged me not to swearing that he was not seeing her anymore. My question is if he is still seeing her why doesn’t he just let me go so he can be with her? I know she wants him, she left her husband to be with him. Or is it possible that he is telling me the truth?
Valena says:
January 25, 2009 at 2:21 pm
I feel that it is very selfish and cruel not to even imagine what the other person is going thru to discover that thier mate is intimately involved with thier ex’s.
But thats what seems drives our society. Do what feels good to you and to hell with anyone elses feelings.
But please don’t just put this all on the mate that is cheating on their relationship, the low life ex has his or her role in the destruction of yet another relationship also.
If that is what is happening, they deserve each other and trying to hold on to the cheater will only stop you from being with someone who finds you phenomenal!
Sometimes it’s about bragging rights.These folks never stop that type of behavior because somewhere in thier warped and selfish thinking, it is okay because they were married to that person before.
It is not when you have vowed before God to love and cherish only one person and give your body only to the person you are legally married to now.
Michelle says:
July 25, 2009 at 2:18 am
My husband and I have been married for only a few months and I just found out that for the past year of our relationship he has slept with his ex-wife one more than one occasion..before and after we got married… Once just days after we came back from getting married, the latest instance just two weeks ago. I am destroyed! My whole life with him has been a lie! I dont know what to do with myself. He has admitted that he has a problem and checked himself into a treatment center to find out why he continues to lie and deceive. He told his ex that he was not in love with her and that he wanted to be with me and he was going to what he had to so he would stop hurting those he loves. I don’t know what to do with this, I don’t know if I can belive anything else he says and does. I’am so confused and empty I don’t know how to get this movie reel from hell to stop playing over and over in my head. What would you do if you were in my situation??