He Broke-Up With Me Because He Cheated
Ask FreeloveMD | March 13, 2007
12 Comments
My ex-boyfriend decided to break up with me because he cheated on me and he can’t be with me knowing that he’s the reason I look sad. He says that he can’t say he loves me, but he really cares and will support me. I love him so much what should I do? It’s been almost 2 months since we separated, but I wasn’t angry about the affair. He doesn’t understand this, and he can’t get past the guilt. Why is that? What do I have to do to prove to him that we can deal with this together?
You really need a wake-up call. He cheated on you, and then he broke up with you? Doesn’t that sound a little strange? Right now you are completely disillusioned about this relationship. Somehow you actually think it is OK that he cheated on you. You couldn’t be farther from the truth. He doesn’t love you. It is hard to hear, but it is true, he doesn’t love you. If he loved you he wouldn’t have cheated on you. You are in denial because you cannot imagine life without him. Stop fooling yourself. The sooner you realize life can and probably will go on without him, the better off you will be.
billie says:
March 14, 2007 at 5:26 pm
I hate to admit it but it is true. If he can engage in a sexual relationship with someone else while he is with you then it can’t possibly be love. Once they get away with cheating they seem to think it is OK. Do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering if he is cheating or with who and if someday he is gonna leave you for one of them? Trust me, speaking from experience, never forgive them for those kind of things, it doesn’t get better. Be glad he is kind enough to break it off so you don’t have to feel bad doing it. You are so much better off with out him. Smile there are so many choices out there.
jazzy says:
March 27, 2007 at 1:31 pm
Well girl, sticking by him is not going to do any good. Forget about him, kick him to the curb. You do not need a man that will do that to you. I have been through that and have realized that the only thing to do is move on and find another man.
sonia says:
April 8, 2007 at 2:17 pm
He is playing mind games with you, he wanted to end it with you any way, he just used his cheating as a easy way out, if he loved you he would’ve kept it to himself, I bet he is with the same chick he cheated on you with, don’t beat yourself up, you can do better.
Felicia says:
April 15, 2007 at 3:50 pm
Let him go he dont deserve you he cheated on you once he would do it again.
raquel says:
May 17, 2007 at 3:56 am
the same thing happened to me, except that i found out he was cheating on me first, i was going to break up with him but he beat me to it, he just said this wasn’t fair to me, he didn’t feel the same way about me, i still confronted him on the cheating and of course he denied everything, you can’t do anything when they don’t want to be with you.
Adriana says:
May 25, 2007 at 8:05 pm
That happened to me yesterday and i cried the whole day and today and I was heartbroken and I don’t want the same thing happening to you.Let him go because I found out life is better without a cheating man
Jenn says:
July 18, 2007 at 5:36 pm
wow…yeah, my ex-boyfriend broke up with me b/c he said that he “needed space” and “didn’t feel the same way about me”. he was under a lot of stress so i just assumed that was the major contributor b/c everything was going great as far as we were concerned. i’d been cheated on before in a previous relationship and i always emphasized that i never wanted to go through that again. needless to say, i went to a national competition and he slept w/ one of his friends. when i was over there, he was sending me “i love you” and “i miss you” text messages!!! that was at the beginning of the month…then he wanted to take a “break” on our 8 month anniversary (mid-month)…wanted me back the very next day…and broke up w/ me the following week. what a jerk! i found out through a friend about his rendezvous so i confronted him about it. of course, he denied it all. it’s been 3 weeks and he randomly called me to say he was sorry and he admitted to doing that. he said that he used to have a crush on her before he met me but then somewhere around the 7 month mark, he started to feel that way again for her. i’ve been sad and very mad!! she’s his gf now and i want to strangle both of them. any advice on how to let him go? i’m disgusted w/ his actions but i finally understand why he “didn’t feel the same way” about me. Help!!!
Jenn says:
July 18, 2007 at 5:44 pm
sorry, one more thing…is it ok if i don’t want to forgive him? he was my best friend and i miss the companionship as well as my friend with whom i shared so much with. i want to forgive him and he said that perhaps we can be friends again one day but that seems so impossible. =( it’s not fair. i know i didn’t do anything wrong, yet i’m the one that feels like crap. again, HELP!!
Carina says:
August 10, 2008 at 8:29 am
Forget about him and move on. It’s so true that once a man cheated on you, he’s not really into you or take this relationship seriously. Because the same thing happened to me. He asked me to forgive him, said that they were just freind and promised me not to find her. However, after 3 yrs, I found that they still keep contact with each other. There’s nothing I can do to keep this relationship but let it go, cuz the same thing will just happen and happen again. And this is my second and last time to break up with him.
SHIRO says:
June 20, 2009 at 5:16 am
my boyfriend cheated on its 1 month now when he says me with another guy he gets very jealousy and now he want me back i still love him so much what should i do
Ellie says:
April 29, 2010 at 1:59 am
JENN- OMG your post. seemed like something i would write.
But let me tell you…
My boyfriend broke up with me on a sunday. My birthday was Thursday.
I came back from our sales mtg and he was so excited to see me friday.. canceled for Sat. then went out with his friend sat ( who also cheats on his wife) This is the FIRST time he had gone out alone with his friend..i had a really bad feeling..we got into a fight over it.. he called me that night at 230am im sorry i love you my phone was on silent- BS never is on silent.. I want to be with you etc etc.
We broke up the next night. My birthday was Thursday. He said he wanted to be friends.. I couldn’t handle that… after i went over to his house one night a few nights later i asked him” have you been with anyone at all?? because i don’t want o have sex with you if u have” he swore no..
keep in mind we were in love..his whole family loved me. I was the first girl he brought home..we spent 24/7 together..he stayed the night at my place 6 nights out of the week..
I found out today that he cheated on me the night before we broke up. How can he cheat?? Then call me and tell me he loves me and im the best thing that will ever happen to him and then break up with me the next day.
on top of that on my birthday he got another motel..4 days later!
He has NO IDEA i know he cheated on me…
I want to tell him i know so bad, but i don’t see the use.
I can tell myself- oh he loved me thats why he didn’t tell me..he didn’t want t hurt me…etc. etc.
but F that… if he loved me and cared why would u sleep with someone else? U can’t say u were too Fd up! U went to a motel and paid for it… you obviously knew what you were doing.
I just don’t understand why he couldn’t tell me. IN the car the night he broke up with me he could barley look at me, he was silent most the time..
He didn’t even answer my calls that day, i had to drive to his house.
And he thought I was the crazy one for driving to his house…
god…
Ellie says:
April 29, 2010 at 2:02 am
i just noticed your post was 3 years ago..lol i hope your over him and doing good!