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Don’t Want To Hurt My Boyfriend

Ask FreeloveMD | March 24, 2008

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My boyfriend and I began dating about 2 years ago. Six months into the relationship I met his friend Mike, I was immediately attracted to him. I broke up with my boyfriend, and I told Mike how I felt, and he responded with the same feelings. We dated for about a month in secret because he didn’t want to hurt my boyfriend. Mike soon cut it off to just wait a few more months, and at this time my boyfriend wanted me back and I went back to him for a security blanket. I realized over time my feelings for Mike are too strong and I am being unfair to my boyfriend and myself. How do I get Mike back? I have thought about asking him to dinner in about 3-4 months and just apologize, but I am not sure if that would be the right way to go about it?

Your’s and Mike’s lack of honesty and a backbone got you into this situation. You need to make a fresh start. To do so you must come clean to your boyfriend and Mike must do so as well. Unless both of you do this your relationship with Mike will never happen. Have a serious conversation with Mike. If he feels he wants to continue a relationship with you he must tell your boyfriend, or both of you could tell him. You and Mike feel guilty that your boyfriend will be hurt. Guilt is a useless emotion.

This question was answered by Joe, a love expert and FreeloveMD contributor.

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