My wife and I have known each other for four years, and have been married for two. Second marriage for both of us. Shortly after we got married, she had a hysterectomy, and the intimacy between us has gotten rarer and rarer. Recently, she has become even more distant… not wanting me to hug her, no goodbye kisses, and snapping at me for every little thing.

Well, I told her I felt her distant, like there might be someone else, and she got even more angry at me for the accusation. She has not slept in the same room with me for over two weeks, and has taken to staying out late with friends. Of course I started looking for signs, and found suspicious things, including her latest habit of staying out late (5AM) with her friends, but nothing concrete. I also think she is trying to set me up and catch me snooping. She says she does not know what she wants. I know her hormones are all messed up, and she has scar tissue from the surgery, but she won’t try anything to bring back our intimacy. I just want our relationship back, but if she wont let me talk to her about my feelings, how is that ever going to happen?