Crush On My Neighbor
Ask FreeloveMD | June 25, 2007
3 Comments
I have been friends with my attractive neighbor for approximately three months. We help each other out and hang out together sometimes. She is very open with me about her private life and I am with her. I have expressed an interest in dating, but she always changes the subject. On the other hand she tells me what a great husband I would make, how great I am, etc. She recently started dating someone and I am jealous. What makes it worse is she shares their sex lives and their problems. I can’t stand the thoughts of losing her as a friend or lover. What can I do?
Your neighbor has relegated you to the friend zone. She obviously doesn’t think you are relationship material. She tells you how great you are, but isn’t willing to act on it. Actions always speak louder than words. She really just wants a friend to talk to. There is an outside chance it might turn into something more down the road, but don’t count on it.
eva says:
August 11, 2007 at 3:21 pm
I am in a similar situation with a neighbor, and he’s been very attentive and sweet to me in ways that i can’t help but think shows that he may care for me. He is younger than I, and I did not initiate this relationship at all, but now that I have developed feelings for him I am afraid of looking like a fool.I am trying to maintain a certain distance because I don’t want to perhaps frighten him away, but I get jealous of his younger friends and feel terrible about it. I would sooner die than have him know how I feel about him!
Lee says:
January 5, 2008 at 3:41 pm
I agree with the first comment. Your only a friend to her, nothing else. If what she tells you, bothers you. Tell her,don’t hide it from her. Also tell her how you feel about her also. Then I would try not to make that much contact with her. Let her do her thing and you do yours. You don’t want to get hurt, because she dating other men. Find someone nice, and not a ho, because that’s what she is
Hannah says:
February 4, 2010 at 1:51 am
She is not a ho for dating other guys, and being your friend. What’s wrong with having platonic guy friends? Just be clear about what you want from her. If she can’t give you what you want, she should at least give you an honest answer so that you can move on. Don’t pressure her, but be clear. And if she is not interested move on. You deserve someone who will be as excited about you as you are about her.