Crush On My Friend
Ask FreeloveMD | April 19, 2007
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I have a crush on my “friend”. I’m willing to give it up if things don’t improve between the two of us. We’ve kissed and I know he’s attracted to me, but he’s pulling away and avoids answering any of my questions about “us”, so I don’t ask anymore at all (I only asked twice). He’s a funny guy, he’s one who strives to do better and I really adore him but I feel like if he doesn’t let me know what’s going on, things will get worse. I know if one of us gets involved with someone else, the other will be hurt. What should I do?
Just tell him what you are telling us. You have feelings for him and you would be hurt if he got involved with someone else. If he brushes you off, or doesn’t say he feels the same way, then you have to assume he probably just likes you as a friend. You should find out as soon as you can, it will be tough maintaining a normal friendship if you have an unrequited crush on him.
Mike says:
April 23, 2007 at 8:48 am
I am in the exact opposite situation. Its hard to express yourself to someone if you don’t know how they feel, and you risk leaving yourself vulnerable. You have two options, you can either sit and wait and see what happens, or you can just talk to him about it and hope he wants what you want. The problem is that if you bring it up too much or too firm, you could make yourself seem a little pushy. How long have you known this guy? If if isn’t very long, then you have less too lose. If you have known him for a while, the reward is much greater but the risk is higher as well.