I met my boyfriend 4 years ago, and I am not sure if I can trust him anymore. I am in my late 20’s and he is in his early 30’s. We hit it off. He was everything I was looking for; attractive, charming, sweet, successful, and loving. 3 months into it he changes into a cocky, disrespectful person. Apparently he had another girlfriend. I suffered as the other woman for almost 3 years. I knew what I needed was to leave, but I didn’t. Actually throughout those 3 years, we were on and off.

It is now into the 4th year and he has made some changes. I think and feel like he is only seeing me. When we’re together, we are deeply in love. We laugh, we enjoy each others company, we are so happy together. And I mean literally “together”. He is a very busy guy, so when we’re apart…we do not get along. Because I already have trust issues considering he disrespected and cheated in the past, I would think that he would try his hardest to communicate. Of course, he doesn’t. Some nights he simply doesn’t return my calls. His excuse the next morning is he had a long day and he was tired. I really think that he is not cheating, but I feel like I deserve to be communicated with. Would counseling be worth our time? Is our relationship salvageable? I am deeply in love with him. Please help.