Comments on: Boyfriend Won’t Say I Love You

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:45:22 +0000

My husband will say “Love you” but never “I” love you”, when he says it to me it is almost like he is NOT personally directing it toward me…it is like a shy, singing “love you bayba”, never looking me in the eyes, like I do him saying (meaning) I genuinely love you.

By: Anastasia

Anastasia — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 20:38:49 +0000

Hey Misty-I’m in the same boat almost. My fiance says he loves me back, but does’t show it. He is always trying to find ways to blame me for somethingl. He complains alot about what I do is wrong and that I don’t love him even though I’m not doing anything behind his back or anything, but he always finds ways to start an argument, but then he says he loves me and otherwise “he wouldn’t be here”. We have a one year old daughter together and he doubts even that and I’m at a loss as to what to do to keep from arguing and make him believe me that I do love him?

By: Harry Axe

Harry Axe — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 08:18:49 +0000

communication is key

and communication is key

By: Marie

Marie — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 02:28:11 +0000

I was reading all the comments… and well i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, we have had our ups and downs and i want to settle and hes just very focused on his career and such we are 22 and 26, I support him 1000% of the time , i tell him i love him… hes technicly my first love but he doesnt say it back. listen when you love someone , you let them be who they are, and if that doesnt work for you , you try to comprimise and meet people half way aslong as the result makes you both happy… we all go threw diffrent things in life in order to learn from those situations. When hes ready he will tell me he loves me untill then, him showing he loves me is good enough. Because i love him for who he is, actions speak much louder then words.. i rather have someone in my life that is honest with me and shows me he loves me , then tells me he does and the momment he leaves my house is going to see another girl when hes really suposed to be going to see his mom. Hope i helped a lil.
just remember honest communication is key.

By: misty

misty — Sun, 24 May 2009 02:54:38 +0000

I’ve been married almost a year my husband has never said he loves me I don’t know what to do when I ask him why he don’t say it he just says if he didn’t he wouldn’t be here help I don’t know what to do.

By: Christi

Christi — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 16:26:57 +0000

i agree with simple. it is so true that actions speak louder than words. my past relationship was terrible and he said ‘i love you’ within the first month. at first, it seemed sincere and i was lovestruck but after awhile of getting to know him in depth, i realized he was a hateful, selfish person. my ex’s last relationship ended about 5 years before he met me so i think he had a lot of alone time which made him cold in the end. when he said ‘i love you’, i felt in the back of my mind that he was saying it just to say it or saying it to hear it back.

i do agree that actions speak louder than words. i told my boyfriend now that i loved him first and i meant it. he didn’t say it back because i think he’s afraid to and that he just wants to take it slow. its fine with me though because he is a wonderful boyfriend and his actions prove to me that he cares. we snuggle, kiss, go for walks in the park together, watch our favorite TV show every week…all those good things that a relationship should be. it’s nice to hear ‘i love you’ yes…but the truth is if you don’t feel it, it is just said in vain.

my parents like my boyfriend now and they hated my ex. you know how you feel and your family always knows what’s best for you. listen to your heart and your parents advice. they will always be there for you.

By: smartiepants

smartiepants — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 19:57:54 +0000

I think that some people fall in love quickly, and others take time. If someone was hurt in the past, it may take time for him to say it. However, more importantly, how does he trea t you?
Is he gentle? kind? generous? attentive? does he fight fairly? Does he communicate? Are you feeling the love? Do you believe him? Has he ever lied to you or hurt you?
Even if you think you can’t live without him, you can. Even if you believe that if you love him unconditionally, he may love you, he may not. But then again, he may.

You may have to find strength you didn’t know you had, and give this guy some space. If he comes back to you, he’s yours.

By: zenn

zenn — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 09:32:56 +0000

i think they are right your young and you should enjoy your time together not pushing him to marry you, it is better to wait on the right time than to wait for nothing.be happy stay cool.

By: Ms. Fifteen

Ms. Fifteen — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 19:44:36 +0000

I just want to say that your boyfriend is on the stage of adjusting, I guess.. His refusal to say I love you doesn’t mean that he don’t love you as much as you love him. I can say that love is not expressed by simply saying “I love you”. Remember that actions speak louder than words. Just wait for that magic word my friend. It will just come at the right place, and at the right time, and if that time comes, you will surely be happy and feel good about it. You know that when he finally says those words with honesty and sincerity, that it all came from his heart…

By: William

William — Thu, 28 Jun 2007 20:13:51 +0000

As I have already found out about people coming out of a long term relationship into another fresh one its that saying “I Love You” really does take some time. Those that say it within the first month might not exactly mean it but then again some could. My boyfriend wont let me say “I Love You” because he doesn’t want to feel like he is holding me back from my life. But as we discussed a few nights ago if I have something to say I should. So I told him, But it will still take some time for him to say it back.

Don’t worry about not hearing it right away. Like many people have said. When he’s ready he will say it and it will come out naturally.