Boyfriend Not Interested In Sex
Ask FreeloveMD | August 29, 2007
2 Comments
My boyfriend moved in with me about two months ago. Since then, his sexual interest in me has declined dramatically. He never wants to have sex. He is interested in oral sex occasionally, but not sex. I am trying to understand him, he says it’s because of the problems we are having financially. Is this true? I just feel rejected and unwanted. It is taking a toll on my self esteem and my trust.
It may be financial problems that are causing your boyfriend to lose his desire for sex. Stress often leads to a reduced sex drive.
You both need to do a better job of communicating. Talk to him about this issue, let him know that it is really bothering you. He needs to know that you feel rejected and unwanted. Together you can discuss the situation and hopefully resolve the issue. Until you really talk to him about it, you will never really understand what the problem is. Remember that communication plays a key role in every relationship. A lack of communication is a recipe for disaster.
Ana says:
September 2, 2007 at 4:17 pm
You shouldn’t be too worried. My fiance and I have been together for three years now and we have had this problem from time to time. What you have to realize is that women see sex differently than men we see it as a pleasurable way to connect romantically with your partner while most men see sex as work. Work that pays off, but still work. This is because men usually feel that they have to take the dominant role in the lovemaking. What I have found that works well for us is to take charge and maybe even experiment with something that he enjoys but you might not have an interest in. My fiance loves nothing more than having his desires fullfilled with none of the labor. It is well worth the trouble.
Jas says:
March 3, 2008 at 3:03 pm
My Girlfriend is not interested in haveing sex as much as I’m. I like to have sex at least once a day. But She says she has always been this way with all the men in her life but she does do some things that she wouldnt with them.I think one problem is that she has to work hard to get off cuz she is not that Sensitive down there. I know its not me cuz when we do have sex then its the best thing ever for both of use. I just have to work at getting her interested and she keeps telling me it dont maker if she is not interested in haveing sex that she will just let me do what I need to do but unlike most men I guess I just dont fill right doing it for myself is that wrong? Anyone have any idea on how I can get her more interested in Sex?