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• Jes says:

  September 25, 2007 at 6:47 pm

  I suggest that you try new things that would excite you both and hopefully relieve your boredness, but if you cant find anything then maybe its time to start seeing other people.

  I wish you both the best of luck.

• Adam says:

  September 27, 2007 at 9:24 am

  I have met a couple of boring women in my short little 25 years of life. I have found out that instead of wating for the excitement you have to bring the excitement out of that person. Try new things, go different places, do things that you two would never consider doing. It will not only bring you closer but open your eyes to apart of yourself that you never knew existed.

• Alexis says:

  November 23, 2007 at 4:45 pm

  I know how you feel because I am going through the same thing.

• Lisa Schaefer says:

  December 17, 2007 at 10:32 am

  I can relate. I’ve had a boyfriend for 1 yr who practically lived with me all year. He’s much younger and he weighs around 350 lbs. He just now gradulated with 2 bachelor’s degrees. Over 6 months ago without us even discussing it I helped him move out of his dorm into my place and I’ve not been able to get him to move out since he’s had no place to go. He has this bus RV that he wasted all his school money on that is parked out at this campground in which the electric/water got shut off after the campsite ownership changed hands. So out of the goodness of my heart and already forcing him to stay out on the cold bus for a couple days recently I let him come back to my place. I do care and love him to a point and I’m very spoiled on having a very loving man hold me every night but overall our relationship has been almost totally boring. I live in a small city with nothing to do. I’m trying to make plans to move. I don’t know whether to stay in this relationship with my boyfriend. I’ve gotten myself sort of dependent on him being around although at the same time I find myself sick of him being around. He will finally start to have more of an income coming in but so far every time he’s gotten money he’s spent it on himself and he’s not chipped in for rent, electric or other household expenses. He has brought some groceries in the house but not much really. I’m at a crossroads. I feel like I need him somewhat but at the same time I have doubts about staying with him. He’s talked about wanting to marry me from the beginning. Any good advice is welcome. Oh as far as dates me and him went on very few dates except going out to eat in which I’ve paid for most of those times especially the past couple months.

• kimberly says:

  January 18, 2008 at 5:56 pm

  i’m sorry, i know how u feel. i’ve been dating the same guy for 7 years (almost we have a little boy together. i like to go out sometimes on the weekends, and he can’t stand it. he’s boring to me. i don’t know what to do bc we’ve been together so long and bc we have a child together. i know exactly how u feel. we broke up for a year and i did everything i wanted to do… i can honestly say that i was happy for a little while. so maybe you just need a little break to find yourself. good luck and i wish u all of the best!

• in the same boat says:

  March 5, 2008 at 10:36 am

  I feel your pain….I have been with my bf for 3 years. I can’t get him to commit, get a job and now he doesn’t even want to make love. He has lost my trust in the past and eveytime I start trusting him again he does something to ruin it again. He is a self-destructive person and I an finally seeing that for myself. I am going to try to move on…I really think I will be just as happy in the long run. I am lonely when he is here and I am starting to resent him badly. Im love him and will miss his presence but if I’m not happy when he’s around why am I worried I will be sad when he’s gone? I wish you luck and myself as well.

• I'm Bored Too says:

  July 29, 2008 at 4:59 pm

  Wow. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and I’m bored… We’ve been dating since high school. I’m confused and I’m aggrevated w/his company all the time and I always find myself forcing it when we’re together. I want to be with him in the future… He’s the perfect man. I need time to be perfect me. I need space. Sucks that we’re in business together. We are always around one another… I think we should break up to grow up and he thinks we should work it out. I need my solitude. I can’t help that. How can I break it to him, yet still maintain sanity in our working environment (both of our dream career)?

• Brandee` says:

  September 15, 2008 at 1:54 pm

  I am so in the same situation, kinda. I have been dating the same person for 16 months. He has two children and I have two children. I have not yet met his children. He has met mine. I am frustrated with our relationnship not progressing. Everyone else around me ismaking progress in their relationship. I have talked and talked until I am blue in the face and nothing has changed. I am in love and broke it off with him once and was miserable. I don’t know what to do. Some one tell me the right thing to do before I go crazy.

• millows says:

  January 11, 2009 at 8:28 pm

  i am in a four year relationship and its about to end because of this. i ignored those feelings for so long and now the split will be ten times harder. we live together, have a dog, etc… please listen to your gut feelings. no matter how many times he says it will “change”, chances are that it wont.

• patricia says:

  February 23, 2009 at 2:23 am

  I feel on on that point i have know my boyfriend for 23 yrs and this time only dating for 6 yrs now.
  sept he don’t listen to me he’s alway’s right never wrong.he don’t work keep saying why he can’t work.
  tells me what i can and can not do.
  I feel out of love for him but don’t know how to leave.
  Are sex life is boring he never what’s to try new things.
  I bord and i’m tierd of it all myself.

• frustrated says:

  May 3, 2009 at 4:46 pm

  I totally understand. I’ve been in my relationship for 3.5 years and it was really rocky at first. Now that everything has calmed dwn and I finally have him where I want him its like I’m totally bored. I hate myself for feeling this way bc I love him and want to make it wrk but its like I always have the thoughts of cheating for excitement. Our sex life is suffering and I’m not into having sex with him like I used to be. I find myself faking enjoyment and when I tell him let’s try new things he always makes excuses. What should I do

• jan says:

  May 4, 2009 at 4:39 am

  I feel like I found the perfect thread. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years and I’ve been on and off bored for quite some time. The thing is that it’s hard to get him to do new things because he hates spending money when he has a job or he’s on and off unemployed so (obviously) he has to save. We’ve talked about this and he’s come around a bit and will do things if the tab is under $5 (coffee..). I’m not a rich person, do not buy designer clothes, etc. and I generally like to save… but I also like to go out on weekends. At least he doesn’t mind that I go out without him. But for the last year our relationship is me going out at nights with my friends, him staying home, and we’ll meet up a few nights a week to watch movies on his computer (on my netflix account, of course). I think sex and attachment is all that’s keeping us together. He loves me dearly so breaking up with him would be like telling a puppy to go home.

• Jan's #1 Fan says:

  July 1, 2009 at 11:08 am

  jan! talk to me! i am in the same predicament, right down to the netflix! if you still look at this thread, you have got to tell me if you and your boyfriend are still together. I feel its just me that’s unhappy in my relationship, he’s not bored-he’s happy. Someone else on this thread said they have thoughts of cheating just for excitement. but is boredom something we have to put up with? are we bored in our relationships, or with ourselves?

• GoingCrazy says:

  August 6, 2009 at 12:41 pm

  I’ve been with my bf for a year just gone. We celebrated our anniversary and everything, it was lovely, but it also reminded me of the ongoing arguments we have over the same subject. We don’t DO anything together. He’s always working on his bike or playing wow.It’s like I can’t get through to him that we’re meant to be a couple. I can’t talk to him about me being broody or about settling down because it always comes to a huge disagreement.We both don’t have much money and we both suffer from depression,so it’s like arguing with myself at times, then I begin to feel it’s all my fault and that I’m not good enough for him. He hardly ever initiates sex and I’m left feeling like I’m ugly or something because I can’t get him in the mood. He’s always too tired and he’s the only one who drives so asking him to go out anywhere makes me feel I’m bugging him or something. I love him to bits but at the moment I find myself wondering where the guy I fell for has gone

• Brittany says:

  November 11, 2009 at 7:50 pm

  Well ladies, I do feel your pain. My previous relationship lasted 8 months and I experienced the same problems with him. Everything became a chore. I had to beg him to take me out, and when we did I ended up paying. We always took my car everywhere and not once did he fill up my tank. I cleaned his apartment, I cooked him dinner and to thank me, he switched things up in bed just a little bit and what he did I didn’t even like! It was a chore to get him to come over to my family’s house and everything was always my fault. It was like we were growing apart. I was miserable but i loved him so much, i never left. Eventually, I told him I was going to leave, I couldn’t take it anymore. He broke down and begged me to leave. So, being stupid and falling into his “i love you” trap, I stayed. I was still miserable. So a couple more months go by and I had had enough. I left. It was the hardest thing I had to do in my life. I was lonely and heartbroken for weeks but as I got accustomed to not having him, I realized life was so much more enjoyable without him in my life. Yes, I still do love him, and I feel that I will always love him, but I have moved on, and I’ve never been happier! Best part, a new man came into my life and that void was filled with true love. So, the advice I give you is if you’re not happy, do something about it. Your feelings come first. I completely understand wanting to spare your guys feelings but face it. If you’ve talked to him and nothing has changed, then things probably never will. the hard fact is, you can never change a man. if he isn’t willing to change and to come up with a way to make your relationship work, in my eyes he isn’t worth your stress or your effort. It most likely means he is not “the one”. Take a break from dating. Just go out with your girls, enjoy yourself! If you don’t look, the best things, and men, normally come into your life by themselves. Be patient. All will work out in the end

  Good luck ladies!

• kelsey says:

  November 12, 2009 at 9:50 pm

  All of your stories make me feel like I’m not alone. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now, and it feels like we’ve been together for years. He pressured me into moving in with him and I thought it was way too soon. We got two puppies together, which adds a lot of stress to both of our busy schedules. While we’ve grown much closer and gotten to know each other very well, I am so bored with him and our life that I am beginning to question our relationship. I’m still in college and want to have fun and be free–he is out of college and doesn’t approve of my friends or going out to bars or parties, etc. What can I do? Does anyone have advice? How do you stay with the person you love, even though you’re bored out of your mind?

• lady82 says:

  November 16, 2009 at 12:05 pm

  Same case here. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. Things are generally not good but usually it become even worse whenever we fight. I got minor bruises, bleeding lips and there was even once he took a knife and place it on my neck threatening to kill me. That’s after he spitted on my face and I gathered the courage to return the favor.

  Made a police report once, but dropped the charges. You see, I am one of you girls. That’s why I am writing in this page. I am too blinded by so-called love.

  But our relationship isn’t all about fights. When we are not fighting, he is really a sweet guy. We stay together and work at the same place so we see each other on daily basis. Except when he is singing during weekend and whenever I am dancing for shows. But as far as I know, he had been loyal all along and so did I.

  Besides his temper, and communication breakdowns ( btw, I am 27 and he is 23), I don’t have much problem with him. Except he sleeps a lot. I feel bored most of the times. I tried to entertain myself but at the same time I feel insecure thinking I might be a plain boring person. I don’t want to spend my life with someone passionless, dull and someone who is easily contented with whatever he had and refused to make things better. And someone who has no life of his own besides sleeping.

  And yes, I even thought of cheating. And imagining a new guy walking into my life and save me from this misery.

• andria says:

  November 18, 2009 at 12:41 am

  well.well. well. me too. so, the question is, “what to do?” ive been with my boyfriend for 6 yrs, talked about marriage and a future together. im so bored i almost hate him all the time and sometimes for no reason. im so miserable with him BUT i can’t detach myself. its too late for comfort now. i wish i could make the move but i can’t stand being without him. yet, i can’t stand him at all!

  H E L P!!!

• julia says:

  January 18, 2010 at 9:37 am

  gals..i completely understand! what it means to be wwith a boring guy,i wld better call him my grandfather than my lover. i am so bored of the daily talks that are oooh-all-so-sweet!he never likes to go out with me while i love to roam.he doesnt light up the passion in our relationship and i can see all the excitement fading! but this guy is loyal so i am on second thoughts about a breakoff.when i read abt guys hitting their galfrens, i think i am lucky as this guy is harmless! but i am bored and waiting for my dream boy, but i wonder if i can detach myself.

• Kaitlin says:

  January 26, 2010 at 10:02 am

  Ladies, I finally feel like I’m not the only one who feels like this. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year, and I’ve been finding that for the past few months I’ve been bored all the time. We go to different colleges, met in high school and started dating afterwards, and for the first few months things were great, we talked every day and we were happy. But now I’m finding that there’s so many opportunities out there and I feel like I’m missing out by not taking them. He says “I love you” every chance he gets, it’s starting to lose its meaning. He always wants to know where I am and who I’m with, and gets freaked out by me hanging out with any other guys. We’ve talked about it and I broke it off, but we got back together, and things were good for a little while, but now I’m starting to feel the same way again, he hasn’t changed how he acts and is still talking about the future, getting married and having kids. I feel trapped.

• Sam says:

  January 29, 2010 at 3:32 pm

  I know how you guys feel. I have been with my guy for 14 months, plus we dated 2 times before. I am feeling really trapped and have asked for a little bit of space, but it is not enough for me. He keeps texting me and talking to me when I want my own “me” day. Also he says “I love you” every 1/2 hour and it really has lost it’s meaning. I feel so upset by all of this because I do love him and feel really attached to him. I am afraid of hurting his feelings and then seeing him afterward (we go to school together, work together). I really feel unhappy but I don’t think I can let go. I don’t know what to do at all.

• trisha says:

  February 16, 2010 at 7:52 pm

  Im going threw the same thing, when i tell my man how i feel he dont respond to it. we only been together for 4 months!! an he just dont seem the same iv tried every thing i can an now my feelings for him are fading what should i do??

• **Danielle** says:

  February 17, 2010 at 4:25 am

  Glad to know other women are going through the same thing. I was starting to wonder if it’s just me or what. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months. We met online and it started fairly well…until he let me in on the fact that he has potentially major heart issues as well as mutliple mental illnesses (bipolar, OCD and ADD). I find that over the course of our relationship, we really have nothing in common at all. I enjoy running around (not at clubs/bars/parties/etc)and he considers any amount of gas/money spent doing anything outside of his house to be wasting. He’s not fun at all. Most of the time we spend is sitting at his house for hours on end, watching TV or arguing about something. If I attempt to go out with anyone else, he’s jealous. If I attempt to go out with him, he just complains the whole night until I’ve had enough and go off and it just turns into a fight. I notice half the time, I’m barely attracted to him at all, let alone attracted in a sexual way. I don’t even feel like having sex with him most times. I feel like I’ve been faking interest off and on for months. I mean, there will be good days when I feel like I did at first, but those are few and far between. He’s talking about moving in, marriage and kids…I just feel like I’m on lockdown and trapped into something I don’t even know if I want to be in. I come home frustrated most of the time and quite frankly, I think if I moved in with him I’d slowly lose my mind. After coming close to dumping him, he’s been trying to cut way down on the clingy behavior and short temper. He’s been doing better but I just don’t know if it will ever bring back the feelings I used to have.

• Elly says:

  March 7, 2010 at 2:24 pm

  Ladies, ladies, I am amazed at how many of us have the SAME issue. Its crazy how we women act with our hearts in hand unlike men. If the tables were turned, they would leave in a heartbeat with only caring about there feelings and not ours. Why is that? Well heres my story. I’m 23 and my boyfriend is 32 we are going to be together for almost 2 years in May. At the begining he was the man of my dreams. And now he has become my worst nightmare. I love the man to death. I was pregnant twice and miscarried. And I feel attached. I wanted to put my feelings aside the side of me that wanted to LIVE PARTY TRAVEL AND THAT SIDE OF ME THAT WAS THIRSTY FOR ADVENTURE. I put it all aside for him. Thinking he would want to settle start a family. We like everyone else bought a puppy just to maybe change things up. However it has gotten boring and what hurts is that….that man that i soo want the funny adventurouse guy he only comes out when his friends are around. But with me…..it all different. I have started to feel ugly I have started to feel fat…I have even started to doubt myself in soooo many ways that im even ashamed to say. Alll this goes on and we all ASK ourself What AM I DOING HERE??? I have yet to leave and just thinking about it brings a tear to my eyes. However that wild being inside me deeep deeep down is thrilled for what is to come. Do what your extinct as a WOMEN tells you…Because LADIES you well know if this was the other way around a man would leave without thinking it twice and not caring what we felt!

• Andrea says:

  March 15, 2010 at 12:43 am

  I’m going through the same thing. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year but I started growing bored of him. We don’t see each other as much since I’m in college and he is back home and the phone conversations have become just so boring, but what frustates me is that I always try to start up the conversation but he acts like he doesn’t even care, he never replies if I ask him a question he says I don’t know. I’m tired and bored of leading the relationship but I do love him and he loves me, he says it every day, and maybe is the distance thats causing this but i’m not sure. I’m starting to doubt if I should stay with him.

• Ray says:

  March 18, 2010 at 10:39 am

  I am so bored, and it is all my fault… I repeatedly ditched my friends for my boyfriend in the beginning of our relationship, and now I totally regret it! Now, they never ask me to go out with them, so I’m stuck with my boyfriend doing the same stuff every single damn day… I never wanted to be “that” girl, but I guess I am now… Girls, please learn from my mistake! You need your friends to keep you sane when you’re in a relationship!

• savannah says:

  April 12, 2010 at 6:21 pm

  I am going through the exact same thing as all of you girls. It really helps to know other people are going through the same thing. I am 23 and have been with my bf for six years. I missed out on the college life b/c we moved in together when I graduated highschool and I kind of ditched my friends. I always have wondered why is seems that the girls lose all their friends and the guy gets to keep all his. I moved kind of far away and it was hard to keep in touch. Well anyways, now i feel like we are just stuck in a rut. Everyday is the same. I am finished with college and have a good job but it just feels like something is missing. Everyone i work with is older so its kinda hard to find people to hang out with there and my bf never seems to wanna meet new people or go out. We’re buying a house together and now I am wondering what the future might hold for us if I just keep living this way. I am so bored with my life and don’t know what to do. Why is it so hard for me to just tell him how I feel and why do I want to stay so bad when I am so unhappy and know that I could be out there making lots of friends and having fun?

• boffin says:

  April 24, 2010 at 11:26 am

  Just sleep with someone you have crush on…and don’t let your boring boyfriend know this…
  Your boring boyfriend will never leave you no matter what happens and you can fullfill your needs thisway.!
  That’s what girl around the world are doing but discreet.

• Peta says:

  May 8, 2010 at 9:47 pm

  i feel the same way . We’ve been together for 2 yrs and things have been good- barring a few huge arguments- but now that we’re about to move in together I’m not so sure. I’m very frustrated with his bad habits, and talking to him seems to reap temporary fixes. I was so sure about us, now …. I’m not so sure… am beginnig to wonder if it’s time to move on. Honestly I’m just tired and frustrated with the situation

• **attention danielle** !!!! --- exact same situation. says:

  May 14, 2010 at 1:35 pm

  you know, its really amazing how many of us go through the same thing. and like idiots, we continue to stay in these relationships when we are so miserable. me and my boyfriend do absolutely nothing !! i work full time, 6 days a week, and he works 5 days a week. we dont have a day off together, so all of our days we just sit and watch t.v. how much t.v. can you really watch though ? he is always trying to engage in sex, but i have nooooooooo desire to have sex with him at all !! aside from the fact that there is no foreplay, he is just not a passionate lover, and bad sex alone messes up a relationship. we need to be satisfied physically and mentally, and when we arent, we feel, bored and depressed, and blame ourselves, well im tired of blamin my self, and trying to change myself for his benifit. when we firsst met, i thought he was gorgeous. 6′ green eyes, 200 lbs, built. just everything a man should be. aside from the personalitly. his ego is large that our state. he jsut turns me off all the time. and then im a sucker. and i stay, because one day out of the week he is nice, and then i hope it will get better… but it doesnt get better.

  soon im going to change this. i cannot live like this anymore. ive lost most of my self esteem, and even resulted in writing on the internet to totaly strangers. he is making me lose my mind. . .

• Tyneisha says:

  May 18, 2010 at 12:17 am

  my spouse and i have been together for 2 years and we now have a 5 month old daughter together. i used to be madly in love with him but for the past 7 months, ive begun to hate everything about him…literally. i dont even get aroused by him anymore and when he touches or tries to kiss me, i cringr and feel like i want to vomit….i want to try to fix it of our childs sake but the thought of him makes so angry….what should i do??

• CLARE says:

  May 19, 2010 at 11:36 am

  i am so glad i am not alone. my man is so boring it is unreal. he is loving and kind and i think that is why i stay. but he will not work nas i do so i pay for everything and he will just lie down all day watching shit on the tv. when i go to see him as we do not live together he never makes an effort and his flat is like apig sty. none of his so called mates work and they all just doss about allday.i need to move on he is taking me for a rite mug

• Jenny says:

  May 25, 2010 at 7:27 pm

  Yeah I was in a relationship for 4 years and it was mostly a routine. He was like my safety net in a way because I didn’t wanna be alone. He had ne convinced I wouldn’t find anyone else and I grew sick and tired of his crap. I dumped him over 9 months ago and it was the best decision I’ve ever made. We still talk occasionally but I’ve found someone new that I’ve been with for 6 and a half months and he is by no means boring or anything that my ex was. Seriously, just dump your boyfriends if you are bored or in a routine. Otherwise it’ll drag you down and make you unhappy.

• alice says:

  June 6, 2010 at 7:46 pm

  this thread actually made me cry because i KNOW everyone here would be happier without their boyfriends but i’m in the same boat as you guys and i just can’t do it. i’m so used to having him there for me that i’m afraid to be alone again. we’ve been together for almost three years and started dating junior year of high school and now go to college together. all we do is sit and watch tv, and when i try to talk to him about my life or anything in general he either has no response or changes the subject. he never wants to hang out with my friends although we actually do stuff, but i’ll sit in his basement and watch him and his friends play halo for hours. i love him and really hope he’ll change, but i find myself getting more and more annoyed with him and no changes coming from his end. what should i say to him? i want to end these issues so i can be happy around him again.

• brooke says:

  June 23, 2010 at 4:59 pm

  im board too my boyfriend it sounds mean but he makes me pay for every thing i mean come on on my 19th birthday he “took” me to a restarant lets just say its a good job i took my purse he had £5 with him and i had to pay £30 pound it was rediculous i was soooo inbarested and if i ask him if he wants to goout with me its like he is ashamed of being seen with me…i also found out that he was in secrate contact with hie EX and he tried to lye his way out of it … i had evidence sent to my email addy from one of her friends ….. pictures, and a break down of the conversation they had it broke my heart … i thaught this guy was messing with me but i then was told about a secrate MYSPACE account he had and i found a conversation between them on there he tried deniying it
  we have been going out for 2 years in november and he wants to start a family … there is noooooo way ………… this will sound harsh but im only with him for company i hate having sex with him if fact i havent let him touch me sexualy in 6 month i feel discusted that he even trys to get sex out of me expecaly because i believe he had sex with that thing … any way in a nut shell im not happy and nobody will talk to me about it

• Blue Agave says:

  July 12, 2010 at 4:24 pm

  GIRLS! Wake up! Stop this. Get rid of those losers! Women should be cherished and adored, not treated like sugar mamma’s to bow down to every man’s needs. NO! Stop it. Shake yourselves out of this. Get out of your houses, you are just as guilty as the men are for being boring! You let yourselves get boring and the men got boring too. Go out, find hobbies, do arts and crafts, go clubbing, join a gym, be social, GET OUT AND MEET NEW PEOPLE!!!!! Shake yourselves out of this and get rid of those guys, it will hurt at first but for God Sakes, grow some balls and make YOURSELVES happy. Time will pass and you will feel better and be having fun again. Get out in the market, get on dating sites, go to dinners and lunches and MAKE YOURSELVES go out even when you don’t want to. Meet friends and role models and surround yourselves with GOOD PEOPLE and make yourself into the best person you can be and THEN and ONLY THEN will you find someone else who is at their best who will be interested in you!

  Good Luck! Best Wishes!

• Nicole says:

  July 15, 2010 at 8:58 pm

  I can defeniately relate! My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost four years and I love him sooo much but, he never wants to go out and he doesn’t like to be adventurous like myself. He never let’s me go out with my girlfriends because he wants me to stay with him all day long doing absolutely nothing! half the time I don’t even come home from work, I try to get all the overtime as possible just becaus I know I have nothing to look forward to…

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