Afraid My Husband Is Losing Interest
Ask FreeloveMD | April 29, 2007
2 Comments
My husband and I have been married for over 11 years now and we have two daughters, ages 10 and 5. Since earlier this year our work schedules have changed, we now only see each other for about 5 minutes during the day. This happens when I meet him after work to pick up the kids. We have our weekends together, but only about half a day on Saturday, since he works nights and sleeps in most of the day to catch up on sleep. I find that the best time in my week is our weekly grocery shopping trip and family dinner out with the 4 of us on the weekend. I am just worried that having so much time apart has moved us farther apart. I am also the type of person that tends to worry about nothing all the time. I am afraid that he is losing interest, and when I try to talk to him about how I feel it pushes him further away. Should I just let it be and deal with it? Am I worried over nothing?
Schedule a date night for you and your husband once a week. Line up a babysitter for the kids and do something fun that you used to do before you had kids. It doesn’t have to be dinner, it could be anything you two used to do for fun. It is very important to make room in your week for a date night so you two can share some real one on one time. With kids and work, it is easy for together time to get lost in the shuffle. You both need to make an effort to take this time together, it will help keep your relationship strong.
Aaron says:
April 30, 2007 at 2:51 pm
Have faith in what you have together. If you feel things are slipping away, use it in a positive way. Don’t ask, make time, and go out of your way to take time is the best advice. Let your actions show its important to have special time.
Brian says:
May 13, 2007 at 11:24 am
your schedule keeps you apart. he works nights. so how are you supposed to cram a “date night” into an already impossible schedule? if you feel its important enough, one of you might want to consider changing jobs. that could free up some real time. i hear you saying that you’re worried, and you wonder if all of this is just you. but think about it. it doesn’t really matter if you’re right or wrong to worry. you are basically unhappy…..and what’s worse….when you try to share your feelings with your partner…for some reason he can’t listen. i don’t think the answer is more effort….i think its making a change so you can be toghether and find out what you really have.