Top 5 Ways To Get Your Ex Back
Articles | February 10, 2007
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You messed up and the woman of your dreams left you. The man you love broke your heart and you have no idea why. With Valentines Day just around the corner you might be remembering the one who “got away”. We’ve all been there, a relationship ends and you are left still longing for your ex. Well there might still be some hope left for you. It may not be fun, and it will require you to put your pride to the side, but if you follow the Top 5 Ways To Get Your Ex Back you might be able to pull it off!
Reach Out!
Do not let the lines of communication between you and your ex end, they are very hard to regain. With so many methods of communication there is no excuse for not keeping in touch. A simple phone call, email or letter to say hi and see how things are going is a good way to show that you still care and are interested. If the two of you are able to remain friends, it is much easier to remind your ex of the good times you had together and let them know you are there for the long run. Note: There is a fine line between remaining friends and becoming a stalker. Do not keep pushing your ex, know that no means no! A friend is appreciated and stalker is grounds for a restraining order. Know your limits and know when it is time to cut your losses.
Don’t Play the Field!
You may have some free time on your hands now that you and your significant other are no longer joined at the hip, don’t use this time to expand your little black book. If you are serious about getting back with your ex you need to prove to them that there is no one else for you. It does not help your cause if you are trying to make “fall back” relationships in the meantime. Often times this is hard to explain and very rarely appreciated.
Do NOT Play Games!
This one is hard to follow, it seems to be in everyone’s nature, but do not fall into the trap. Show you ex that you are committed to being and behaving like an adult. That maturity is what a person looks for in a partner and can help you rekindle that loving feeling.
Stay in Shape and Improve Yourself!
Your partner obviously did not want to be with you for a reason. Try and figure out what that reason might be, and if you feel your ex was right, work on improving it. Becoming a lifeless couch potato is not going to make your ex come running back into your arms. Try working on what you like about yourself and getting rid of what you don’t like about yourself. Even if you and your ex don’t work things out, you will have a new and improved persona to woo the world with.
Be Yourself!
We just told you should improve yourself, that doesn’t mean you should lose yourself. Your ex loved you for a reason and that was because you are a unique human being…you might have just had annoying quirks. Work on improving yourself, but don’t try to become someone you are not just to impress a potential suitor. If you do, you are not only setting yourself, but also the relationship, up for disaster. You can only pretend to be someone else for so long before it all comes crumbling down. Save yourself the trouble and learn to love yourself and others will follow along.
Gina Penn says:
March 28, 2007 at 2:47 am
Thank you very much this helps put a perspective on things.
JG says:
March 30, 2007 at 4:23 pm
Thank you. thisseems like sound advice and I will definately use it.
anna says:
April 11, 2007 at 1:37 am
This is the first time that I have ever heard of keeping the lines of communication open.
I like it, and I like the part about keeping the communication open but knowing your boundaries.
I have been broken up since Feb. I went a month with no communicating (advice of the world)
then I went over and communicated, it was not the right time or place. Now I’m trying to distance and remain cool, not sure what to do.
Eve says:
April 19, 2007 at 5:32 pm
Hmm…I dunno about these tips. I only agree with #5 and this is solely because the “one that got away” indicated I would always be welcomed to stay in touch with him.
We just cant be in the same room together for obvious reasons(Im strictly sex to him, he means more to me). I talk to my ex once every few months just to see if I still feel this same tenderness towards him I have always felt. And I still do. We’ve known each other almost 2 years and dated 5 months.
I still date others. Im sure he’s out doing the same. And Ive always been myself. Sometimes, you are not the reason your ex leaves. So I disagree with # 1 and 2. It may have had nothing to do with your looks or your self esteem or your quirks. It may have been he or she wasnt ready or something got in their way other than you.
Fabrizia says:
May 7, 2007 at 1:15 am
Icouldn’t agree less. These tips make you look needy and unattractive. Newton’s Law-for every action there is any equal and opposite reaction, is a much more effective approach. You push they pull. You pull they push. Pull away, prove you’re independent, healthy and not needy. They will come back.
bad2bone2212 says:
June 22, 2007 at 1:50 pm
Yea i like the response about Newtowns Law. Yea its good to pull away, but u can only pull away so much before the partner just says, fuk it. Its hard to just pull away completely. Well in my situation, we were still “talking” for about 2 months about getting back together. Well like a month ago i kinda ended things with her because i didnt feel like playing games. Now im showing her that im healthy and independent, but she still hasnt came back. I thikn she might be trying to forget about me. But i aint gonna let that happen. I called her and she even told me to call her later when i ended the conversation. Now to not talk to her for another 3 weeks and invite her out somewheres. nice. get her to like me again like she did before.
Liddlespice says:
August 12, 2007 at 10:20 pm
Sorry Sasha, but most of that is total bs. It sounds plausible but human nature is far different. Most of us want only what we cannot have. The last thing you do to get an ex back is be too needy! I’ve had many relationships myself and only told one man after the relationship was over, how much I truly loved him and it made no difference to him. Just added humiliation to the list of emotions I already had to deal with.
Cliff says:
August 22, 2007 at 12:57 am
I would have to agree with Liddlespice, I treated this girl like a queen, I gave her showers, full body messages everyday and it scared her because no one ever treated her so good. Told me I was pretty much everything she ever wanted in a man & I was hot looking, but that didn’t stop her from breaking up with me & even thought she told me she loves me not that it’s over it has done no good to tell her I love her & keeping the lines of communication hasn’t done a thing to help either, she still will not answer e-mails & says she is busy & can’t talk right now if I call her on the phone. What really gets me the most is the stupid games people play. All I did was treat her great so why can she just sit down & talk it out with me? Because the game is more important than the feelings we had for each other, move on life is too short to play games.You want a real tip, never get involved with a women that was abused by her ex because when you treat them right they run!
Charlotte says:
September 26, 2007 at 12:09 am
Well I have been reading for some answer for myself. But my Comment is for Cliff. I understand about the whole part about being abused by your last partner. BUT there is a point where you have to give them time to miss you. Know what I mean? Anyway dude. HE HE where are you. I would like to be treated like a queen, just once in my life. Anyway I’m going to go now. Hope the best for everyone thats having problems. And i will be posting my problems here in a few so hopefully I get some good advice. Thanks all!!!
Stephanie says:
October 1, 2007 at 8:47 pm
I also disagree with JB. When an ex breaks up with you, you should not call them for awhile (like two weeks). Let them re-think their situation and see if they will miss you. If you don’t call them, they would be like “Dude, is she/he over me already?” then they would call you to see what’s up, and then you have the upper hand if you take it slow and don’t give in so quick. I only agree with rule 4 and 5. You should start to improve your look so you’re ex can think they are missing out and you should always be yourself. I think you should date a little, it’s always good and keeps your mind busy from your ex.
Lee says:
January 5, 2008 at 10:38 am
You should keep some communication line open. If your trying to get back. But you should also do your own thing. Don’t sit at your phone or computer waiting for a email or phone call. Let them know you have a life also. I do agree is your trying to get back, the wrong thing to do is to date,
Jessia says:
February 14, 2008 at 4:58 pm
Thanks for havng this up here.Im going to try these 5 ways to help my person and relationship becuz I was with him for 10 years.We broke up becuz we needed a break from each other. Now I ready for him back.
Lee says:
June 21, 2008 at 1:36 pm
Cliff is right; I treated my lady like a queen…even tucked her in at night because she liked that! Maybe I was too there for her…anyways, she left without any warning or no explanations…I don’t know what I did wrong. At first I tried to keep lines of communication open but no good, she was cold and distant.
So I went No Contact on her for a month and packed up all her stuff. Now she’s the one calling me! I hate to play these games with her after six years but I don’t have a choice, she won’t come clean! Anyways, she’s coming by next week to “talk”…so this article is opposite of what I did.