You won’t believe how often we hear this from the ladies, “I really like this guy, how do I let him know I am interested?”

Examples

“I really dig this new guy at work. We hit it off right away. We always hang out at lunch, and the conversation is fantastic. Not to mention he is drop dead gorgeous! I have flirted with him a little bit, but nothing major. How do I let him know I am interested without scaring him off?” -Rebecca, 27

“I see this guy at the Starbucks near campus every Tuesday and Thursday before my class. He is always working on his laptop by the window when I come in. I know he sees me, we exchange glances often, and I have caught him checking me out twice. I think he is so cute. How do I approach him? I don’t want to scare him off.” -Amanda, 20

Tough Talk

It can be tough for a girl who wants to let her crush or good friend know she is interested. You feel awkward, you want to let him know, but you don’t want to come on too strong and send him running. In fact, the last thing you want is to do is scare him away. Here are some sure-fire subtle moves you can make to let him know you are the girl for him. You will be on that first date before you know it.

Ice Breaker

The first move is often the hardest, especially when you are admiring a crush from afar. It is usually assumed it is the guys job to make that crucial first move. This rule isn’t set in stone, ladies can make the first move too. A great way to break the ice is a short and simple question, “I couldn’t help but notice you, would you be interested in going for coffee or lunch sometime?”. It may feel awkward and bold but you can do it. What have you got to lose anyway? Men we interviewed are almost always turned on by a girl who makes the first move:

“I love it when a girl asks me out, it lets me know right away I am dealing with someone who is driven and isn’t scared to lose.” -Ethan, 25

“There is nothing sexier than a woman asking me out on a date. I love a girl who knows what she wants, especially when it’s me!” -Tyler, 28

The Power of Touch

What about that guy at work you hit it off with? How do you send the right signal? One of the strongest signals you can give a guy is a subtle touch and a quick glance into his eyes. The timing has to be right, and you don’t want to grope him. Just a light touch on the shoulder and a quick glance in the eyes will do the trick. Make sure you don’t go overboard with this one, touch him too much or too often and he might be scared away.

Stay Open

It is important to keep your body language open and inviting when talking with your crush. This doesn’t mean opening your legs and licking your lips. This does mean keeping eye contact while holding a conversation, and smiling often. You want to appear comfortable, caring, and confident.

Have Fun

Keep a playful, fun attitude. Above all you must keep it relaxed and fun. This lets your crush feel comfortable and willing to open up to you. Use this playful atmosphere to hint at your romantic intentions with small quips and flirty remarks. Be subtle, cute, and fun in your efforts to woo your crush. Once he is having fun, he will be more open to your advances.