I don’t want to end my office relationship but I have been in a stable relationship for almost 5 years now. We are happy and rarely fight. My problem is I have become really close to a male friend at work ever since I went threw a medical dilemma. He has become my best friend and we tell each other everything. I have started to develop strong feelings for him to the point that I think about him all the time and want to spend all my time with him. A few months ago, he attempted to kiss me and I freaked out. The next time I saw him, I let it happen. It was exciting. So much sexual tension between us. I get butterflies when I see him or receive a text/call/email from him. I don’t want to leave my partner. I am just intrigued by having something different in my life and I don’t even feel guilty. I’m so confused by all of these feelings. My co-worker decided that nothing sexual can happen between us because I am in a relationship and he doesn’t want to be the cause of any problems. It makes me sad because I don’t want to lose him as a friend and I still can’t help but think about what it would be like to be with him. I just don’t know what to think anymore!

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My ex hooked up with someone else now wants to get back together. We had been dating for three years but recently (3 weeks ago) broke up because we were fighting a lot and things just didn’t seem “right” anymore. During the break we have stayed in contact the whole time and often times talk about how much we miss each other and how we are still in love. Now my ex wants to get back together, only problem is he has admitted that he was “with” someone else for one night during our break. I don’t know what to do I am so torn. Is this forgivable?

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I have cheated on every girl I have ever dated. I don’t know why I cheat on my girlfriends! I feel like I can’t help but cheat. I know I can not keep doing this. What can I do to stop cheating?

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How do I talk to girls? I can never come up with things to talk about and my mind goes blank. I still try and approach girls but usually end up talking about the same things over and over. Please help me, I want to overcome this problem.

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I love her but she already has a boyfriend! I am a 39 year old guy and I’ve fallen in love with my 31 year old female friend. The problem is that she has a boyfriend and I’m the kind of person who does not get involved with someone who has a boyfriend. I just can’t seem to get her out of my head! I’m constantly thinking about her and dreading the day that she will be so busy with him that she will have little time for me. When we’re together everything is wonderful, until she starts talking about her boyfriend. I really want to tell her how I feel but I’m afraid of what her reaction will be and how it will impact our relationship. I couldn’t stand to loose her as a friend but I feel either way, I’m going to lose her.

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I do not understand why I can not stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend even though I am married! A few years ago I meet this guy who I fell madly in love with. We dated off and on for two years but things just didn’t work out. Not a day went by that I did not think of him after the breakup. A year after we broke up I meet another fantastic guy who I also fell in love with! We ended up having a baby and getting married. We’ve almost been married a year now. The problem is just last month my ex started hanging around my cousin (we are all mutual friends)…now I can’t get him out of my head! I love my husband to death, so I don’t understand why I can’t stop thinking about my ex!

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Is it possible to overcome cheating in a relationship? My boyfriend and I have known each other for more than 20 years and have been dating for 2 years now. We have an 18 month old son who we both adore. Before my current boyfriend I was in a relationship with a man for 6 years and it ended very badly. I was emotionally crushed. When my current boyfriend and I began dating we were both over the moon. We were so happy together and honest about our pasts. However, I did have emotional issues due to my past. I became afraid to show my feelings for fear of getting hurt again. In a nutshell, I admit, that I was not very emotionally forthcoming with my boyfriend even though I was happy. And to make matters worse with the introduction of the baby, our sex life became rather dismal. I recently just found out he has been cheating on me and I’m devastated. I confronted him about it and he admits it but says what was he supposed to do when we weren’t having sex and I was acting like I didn’t care. I do not accept full responsibility for this scenario but I do know that I am at fault as well. I love him and I know he loves me but I just don’t know if we can overcome this.

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My girlfriend found explicit photos my ex-girlfriend, from 6 years ago, while snooping on my computer. I honestly forgot that they were still on there or I would have gotten rid of them long ago (and if you’re thinking “yeah right” – think again – it’s the truth!). I’ve caught her snooping through my journals and diaries. I have told her that I’m not comfortable with her rummaging through my belongings, but she always denies it and comes up with some clever excuse. I understand why seeing photos of me and my ex-girlfriend would be upsetting, but I don’t feel that I’ve done anything wrong and it bothers me that my current girlfriend would be so sneaky and deceptive. We’ve been together for three months, I’ve always been faithful. I’ve never cheated on anyone! I haven’t seen those pictures in years and it makes me sick that she has seen them. But it also makes me sick that she went searching through my computer and invaded my privacy by viewing private documents and files. I worry that this kind of suspicious behavior is going to continue in the future. I’ve never lied to my current girlfriend or given her any reason to mistrust me. She frequently finds excuses for me to leave her alone in my apartment and though it seemed strange to me, I thought I had nothing to hide or fear. Now I feel very uneasy and worried about my girlfriend and our relationship. I also feel that my privacy has been violated and that trust in our relationship has been compromised on both sides. I want to continue with this relationship because I genuinely love my girlfriend, but I can’t tolerate being spied upon or being held under suspicion for something that happened six years before I met my girlfriend. What should I do? FYI, I erased the photos when they resurfaced and they’re gone for good!

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